Ex DP has finally got his act together and accepted it is over. He moved out properly but is now being even more difficult than usual.
I started working again, a couple of days a week in a supermarket and it's great to be out of the house and having something for myself.
Since I started work 2 weeks ago he has been awful about childcare when I'm working. My mum has the girls until 4pm one day and he was supposed to pick them up when he finished work at 4 till I finished at 10. He's now refusing to do this stating that he has other stuff to do. He promised he would do it before I accepted the job and to be honest I shouldn't have had to worry about it because there is no reason he can't do it.
He doesn't even need to do the other shift because it's a 3 hour shift on a Sunday night and my mum is happy to do it.
Going back to the other shift, I genuinely have nobody to have the girls. Childminders in this area work until 6, they are all full anyway and my family all work on a Tuesday night so no available babysitters. I was thinking of hiring a babysitter but they are really expensive and defeats the purpose of me working.
Ex is now demanding dd2 every second night. He won't take dd1 because she's not biologically his even though he's been there since she was 6 months old and she calls him daddy. Dd2 is 13 months old and I think it's too much. He works during the week 7-3.30 so on the weeknights he has her I need to get the bus at 6am with my 5 year old to get to his mums house a half hour journey away to pick her up. I think this is taking the piss.
I have let him the past week do this but I don't want it to continue. It's too much for me. I can't afford the bus fares (£17 return every second day) and it's not fair on my 5 year old. She's exhausted.
He will not do the Tuesday night and it's just because I'm working and he's pissed off I've got independence again.
He is coming down tonight to chat and pick up dd2 but he's so unreasonable he doesn't understand why I won't agree to alternative nights and thinks I'm just stopping him from seeing her.
It's not the case and surely anyone with half a brain csn see why it's not a good idea.
What's the best way to sort this?
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Ex is demanding alternative nights... How to explain why this is not good
BoldBlackCherry · 28/07/2014 10:53
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