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Sex with kids/teens in next room

64 replies

mum2014 · 27/07/2014 23:21

Myself and dh have sex most nights but have a 12 yr old plus 2 other kids who like to stay up late over the holidays. Went through phase of sex maybe once a week but since dh has had a vascectomy and I have stopped the pill my sex drive has gone through the roof!

Finding it harder to have sex and we are both getting annoyed with kids. Have tried them going to bed earlier and us waking earlier but have no comfort knowing they could disturb us.

So wondering how people with older kids manage their sex life.
We don't have anyone that could take them over night for us .

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Cluelesslulu · 27/07/2014 23:23

How about a lock on your bedroom door?

NatashaBee · 27/07/2014 23:24

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mum2014 · 27/07/2014 23:24

Have tried that but one of kids(5) is very nervous at night and likes to know our door is not locked.

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morethanpotatoprints · 27/07/2014 23:28

Sorry OP its even worse when they are older teens or dare I suggest 20's they are up even later.
You just have to take the opportunity when it arises. It is like having them as toddlers again, they just lig about, mainly upstairs bedrooms.
We even gave them a room downstairs with TV and all their stuff, but no they want to be in their rooms.
Good luck Grin

KristinaM · 27/07/2014 23:31

Lock on the door. Open it before you fall asleep

Play music /TV in your bedroom to cover any noise

GiniCooper · 27/07/2014 23:32

Lock your door for ten minutes ;) until the deed is done.

Open it after.

Lally112 · 27/07/2014 23:34

Just get on with it, My kids are younger than yours and we have been caught a few times but you just have to sort of tell them to get back to bed or put something in front of the door. If I'm honest - its the sneaking around I love the most.

gamerchick · 27/07/2014 23:34

You just unlock it when you're finished.

Philoslothy · 27/07/2014 23:35

We have a summerhouse that we "disappear" to.

Lesnewth · 27/07/2014 23:39

Just give up until they leave home!

CogitoErgoSometimes · 27/07/2014 23:40

I got a text saying 'I'm not asleep yet!' Funnily enough, at the time I wasn't checking my phone.... Hmm

Lesnewth · 27/07/2014 23:52

Grin CogitoErgoSometimes

Lally112 · 27/07/2014 23:53

Cogito that is awesome. My friend (who is older than I am) was confronted by her teenage son who stated that after people become parents they shouldn't have sex and her reply was "how the hell do you think you got two younger siblings".

Philoslothy · 27/07/2014 23:54

To be honest we just get on with it. We have five children it is clear that we are having sex.
We are not shagging on the dining table, we are consenting adults in a loving marriage.

We also send our children to lots of clubs and have a weekend away about every six weeks.

Philoslothy · 27/07/2014 23:56

We have noticed that our older children knock on the bedroom door, we have never asked them to!

We co sleep with our baby which creates its own challenges.

Yambabe · 28/07/2014 00:15

the best thing to do is wait til your teens have a night out then get naked (from the waist up at least) under a duvet on the living room sofa - wait for them to walk in, preferably with mates, then smile sheepishly and say hi.....

They will lock their own bedroom doors and wear earplugs forever more, and you will never meet another gangly spotty yoof that you don't know in your house EVER! Grin

Yambabe · 28/07/2014 00:17

but on a serious note, shut the door and put some music or the telly on. 9 times out of 10 they will never know, the one occasion when they walk in you are just "having a cuddle" and can always resume later Smile

Step · 28/07/2014 10:18

.. a lock is better than them walking in..... really. Oh God I still cringe.

Lesnewth · 28/07/2014 10:20

OMG, I'd never be relaxed enough to do it with the teens around. Can't do it if the cat is in the same room! Grin

Coconutty · 28/07/2014 10:38

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OldCatLady · 28/07/2014 10:40

Second a lock and tv/music. You can put the lock on whilst 'doing the deed' and unlock after if you're worried about your DC.

Let's be honest, your kids know you're doing it anyway!

bigTillyMint · 28/07/2014 10:41

Grin @ sex music!

DD shouted at DH once that she had to put up with hearing us at it - must have been once on a very rare occasionGrin

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Idontseeanyicegiants · 28/07/2014 10:47

Wait until they're in bed and do it on the sofa it in the kitchen Grin
Or just keep the noise down, we've become experts at the quiet shag...

OddBoots · 28/07/2014 10:54

How early do they wake in the morning? Are mornings an option? (still with the door locked!)

KristinaM · 28/07/2014 11:09

BTW, those of you who have teenagers who walk in when you are having sex and manage to pass it off as " a cuddle" ........

You are not doing it right Wink

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