OK long time lurker but first post. Married 24 years but not had sex for approximately last 10 years. before health issues interfered we were very sexually active, Since then I had gynae problems and dh had health problems, both now sorted except dh now on tablets for high blood pressure. I would like to resume our sex life and dh says he would too but nothing happens. He tells me he loves me every day and we have a kiss and a cuddle every day but I would like more. I have suggested we just fool around and see what happens but he seems reluctant and says it leaves him frustrated. I have tried to explain that piv sex is not the be all and end all but he doesn't get it. He gets very embarrassed and clams up. I am now so frustrated, I want to be intimate with him but he sees this as full sex not just fooling around and seeing where it leads us. We have talked but he gets so embarrassed and feels a failure. He has had a prescription for viagra but it made him feel ill. Any suggestions? Neither of us is unhappy in our marriage but I really would like to regain the intimate side of things. I have tried the direct route as well as being subtle - I can't seem to get an answer. Basically I want to know if he wants to and can't (we can work around that) or he doesn't want to - he says he can't but then refuses to discuss further. I know his confidence is low as he was married twice before and cheated on. I am so frustrate because I want to be intimate with him. thanks for listening
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peanutnutter · 26/07/2014 20:30
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