Hi there
I am posting to get some advice a specially from some of you that may have been in a similar situation.
My h is leaving me with a two and a three year old. He seems to have some idealistic view of what a marriage should be like and I am not living up to it. We went to relate but very quickly he said he didn't want to work at it. Therefore we are parting. I am so angry about his lack of commitment but I won't go into detail basically that's that.
We are still living in the same house. I am in his area where I have lived for 8 years. My family and a few friends live 100 miles away. I have made some friends here and like the area.
I am now in terrible dilemma - weather to move move to my home town or stay here. If I stay my xh will help( although you never know he might meet someone). I have a pretty good job part time but I find it very stressful and don't know if I would manage it once I am on my own. I could just afford to to take on the morgage. I like the area like I said but schools aren't very good especially secondary it's quite rough.
Alternately my parents have offered that if I move back to my home area they will help me with a a small morgage ( on top decent down payment of mine) which I will take over once I have a job. And they would help out as much as they could. This would give me a chance to move to an area with better schools. And perhaps find a job I feel happier about.However, it's not an area I would automatically pick for myself though not too bad either. I keep changing my mind which is the worst bit. Sometimes I am ok and sometimes it's all too much. The other thing is that really I feel I need to have decided and have an address by
Xmas so as to put dc1 nam down for school so I am really feeling the pressure to decide. I realise I am so lucky to have these options. Advice would be really appreciated. Sorry it's so long!
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H leaving really need some advice please!
Lostalot · 26/07/2014 20:00
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