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exh.... he constantly demonstrates he dont give a shit

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ptsdhelp · 26/07/2014 10:45

I just need to vent!
I just text exhibition to ask what my dd ate last night as it looks like she has food poisoning.... his one word response was 'carrots'. Not 'oh dear how is she'.... its just the latest in a series of shitty episodes with this man. Including last night he threatened to leave my dd at my friends house as I wasn't home (I was on my way and not late) ....

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hamptoncourt · 26/07/2014 13:13

Miserable fucker!

Do you have a friend who could call up being "Doctor Wilson from local hospital food poisoning consultant blah blah" asking what she ate?

That might make him tell you what she ate and also make him realise what an arse he is being.

I would probably text him back and say, "Ok, thanks, I am at the hospital and have told the doctors that's what she ate, very helpful, I will let you know how we get on." and then turn your phone off.

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ptsdhelp · 26/07/2014 13:39

Thanks hamptin court! That made me chuckle!! He really is a pratt! He hasn't even asked if she's OK... he did text an hour after the first and said he got his texts muddled up. He must think I'm an idiot. He's feeling brave cos gf is there... and he don't know I know that!

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ptsdhelp · 26/07/2014 13:41

He actually called my friend last night to say he needed to leave my dd with her (so he could collect gf from station , not that he gave that as a reason.... he's been seeing her a year and still hides her from the kids!!

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JaneFonda · 26/07/2014 16:44

Okay I think there are a few issues you need to separate here.

Firstly - are you sure DD has food poisoning? It could be a 24 or 48 hour stomach bug, or a virus, and not necessarily food poisoning. His response was very unhelpful though.

I think you need to forget about his girlfriend - you've made a couple of snarky comments about it just on this thread - if he's been with her for a year, it is time to get over the fact that he's moved on.

Honestly, it's not a bad thing that he doesn't introduce the kids to her - if it was the other way around, I'm sure some people would be complaining about the kids meeting her.

Your priority really needs to be your DD, and not who your ex is with at this moment.

That being said, I'm sorry your DD is ill and I hope she feels a lot better soon! Make sure she's well hydrated - if she doesn't feel like eating/drinking then you could freeze some juice/chocolate milk into an ice lolly so she's still getting liquid into her.

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ptsdhelp · 26/07/2014 19:39

Thanks .... but to clarify... I was actually glad he'd met someone and told him so at the start! In fact gave him a pep talk on not talking himself out of it! I divorced him and so moved on a long time ago. I mention his GC only because since he met her he has been really inconsiderate and insensitive towards the children.... I could illustrate with examples but won't bore u! I'm nor fussed if he dont wanna introduce them actually.that's his call. What I object to is him not seeing his kids when he's meant to because he's made other plans or trying to offload my kids on my friends when he's meant to have them because he's trying to get away to see her. Its become a regular thing and my kids get upset and don't get an explanation. It is causing huge problems not least my dd thinking that her dad ain't interested in her or what she's doing because he fails to turn up. Yes I'm certain its food poisoning and really just needed to know what she had eaten. He didn't need to be sarcastic. He hasn't even asked if she's OK. My priority is my kids. Its a shame they are never one of his!