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I'm starting to feel lonely!

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HeyBungalowBill · 24/07/2014 22:28

I've never really had a decent period of being single before as I've always seemed to go from partner to partner.
I've now been single for 6 months and as much as I've enjoyed it I'm now starting to get lonely.
The first man I've been interested in is married which makes me feel even shitter because it makes me feel stupid, typical me to like someone who is unavailable!

I feel a little bit stuck as I don't want a new partner anytime soon but I'm starting to feel a little fed up of being alone!
Does anyone else feel the same way?

I'm worried I'll end up meeting someone and liking them more than I should just because I want some company!

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JustDontWantToSay · 24/07/2014 22:48

Oh God, me too!

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HeyBungalowBill · 24/07/2014 22:51

I don't want to end up with some idiot just because I was lonely and jumped at the chance at being with someone?

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HeyBungalowBill · 24/07/2014 22:51

That question mark wasn't meant to be there

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FreudianGymSlip · 25/07/2014 07:56

The best time to meet someone is when you don't feel alone or afraid of getting hurt. You're much more likely to weed out those who aren't suitable if you've got other things to keep your interest and social life active.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 25/07/2014 08:39

Agree that you need diversions, companionship, friendship, fun etc. Find ways to properly enjoy independence as a positive thing rather than seeing it purely as being 'between dates'. Would you travel independently? Learn a new skill? Seek out other independent people (rather than hanging around with couples feeling like the odd one out)? Yes, if you're lonely and desperate the danger is you'll grab onto anyone showing you a scrap of affection, however inappropriate. No-one can correct that except yourself. Good luck

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HeyBungalowBill · 25/07/2014 15:07

I've got a fairly new hobbie so I'm going to focus on that and I'm starting a course at university in a few months so if I can last til then I should make it out alive!
I think I'll feel better once in a routine at uni when my life has a bit more structure as everything's a bit random at the moment and I don't like it