My partner/husband/significant other is my hero because:

[Theas18]

Thought I'd start a nice thread in relationships. It might go down like a lead balloon I dunno, but I read so much sad stuff on here, especially the recent thread where the poster thought her DP loved her because he did the stuff you would do for a best friend (and yet was an utter bullying abuser).

Here is mine:
today Dh has driven the kids 90mins each way to visit my parents- mum is in hospital and Dad in respite care. He's also been shopping to get mum bits of this and that and taken Dad some things he was missing from their home. I was stuck at work till 7pm :(

That's above and beyond the call of duty I think. Not your average "romantic touch" but makes me feel so very loved.

Tell me your special things.

[dodi1978]

... he once literally saved my life.

We were walking on a French beach, when I fell and dislocated my kneepcap. The tide was coming in and there was a cliff face, so no way out. He stayed with me, he stayed calm, he stayed calm despite the French emergency services being useless. When no rescue came and we absolutely had to get out of there, he hung me from his shoulders (ex RAF man, he knew a few tricks!) and carried me. This, luckily, made my kneecap snap back into place and I was able to walk - I didn't even feel pain because of all the adrenalin. We made it around the last head land with him in the water up to the hips, me up to the knees. Fire service was casually waiting at the 'exit' of the beach, they would never have made it.

[themummyonthebus]

To stop this one sinking as I think it's a great idea for a thread to counter all the negativity, here's more.

DH is a star because he'sgone above and beyond in working on our new house to get it ready to live in, while working FT and being a fully engaged member of our family. He's awesome ??

[Jumblebee]

He regularly gets up with our DD so I can have a lie in, never complains about doing it and most of the time brings me a cup of tea in bed

He also knows that when I make a certain annoying noise, it means I'm thirsty and would like him to get me a drink I have absolutely NO idea why he puts up with me but I'm so happy he does!

ALSO, he is the best dad to our DD. He was scared he would be just like his dad (a useless, abusive waste of space) but he is the opposite, and DD lights up when she sees him

[stillenacht1]

He takes our severely autistic son out EVERYWHERE- up to London, swimming, theme parks, country parks, rugby, motor racing- all so I can have a break. I am too nervous to take him out now as he is getting strong. He takes our other boy out to special places too. He also books up surprise nights for us to go and see the music we love. He is amazing

[Theas18]

wow dodi!

[Gogglepox]

I love this thread! It gives me hope...c'mon ladies, share your stories!

[impatienceisavirtue]

He does everything he possibly can for me, my kids and anyone I care about. He is romantic, thoughtful, strong and caring. Nothing is ever too much. We have been through so much and he is what keeps me going. I am a major PITA. There is a good reason I've never been in a healthy relationship before him. But he makes me a better person, and he doesn't just put up with my shit, he helps me with it. I adore him. I have been through hell on earth in my relatively short life so far and it's all been worth it for this. I didn't know such a person could exist, and I'm so damn lucky.

[wickedwitchofwaterloo]

Whenever I am having a horrendous time of the month and can't get out of bed due to back pain and cramps, my DP will get out of bed and see to our very cheeky little puppy downstairs, after bringing me a cup of tea and asking if I need anything else

We haven't actually been together for very long, but it's things like this that make me feel like the luckiest girl in the world

[Pointlessfan]

My husband does so many lovely things it's hard to pick one. I don't mean grand romantic gestures, I just mean every day things. He always makes breakfast and packed lunches because he knows I'm rubbish at getting up in the morning, he's always done his share of housework but more so since our baby was born. He always brings me a cuppa while I'm feeding DD in the morning and often gets me a glass of water if I run out while I'm feeding her in the night. Our daughter adores him too - he's a wonderful father and husband.
Great thread btw.

[gatewalker]

... because I am learning to love her unconditionally, and through this I know that she is always there for me. I am never alone.

I am single at the moment, and I have come to realise that I am my significant other.

[fluffyraggies]

He has just spent an hour and half getting DD (6 mnth old) to sleep.

And stayed cheerful. And made me a coffee

Love you DH

[DoloresGove]

He gave me a sense of perspective about something in my past that I had become completely consumed by and made me realise it wasn't the terrible person I had come to believe I was.

He also forced me to grow up! (in a good way)

[shitatusernames]

Home birth 3 weeks ago, midwife called him a star as when I got up off the sofa it looked like some kind of blood bath, did my husband flinch when asked to clean it up by the midwife? Nope, also I asked him to get me more maternity pads from asda, mum said she'd go with him if he didn't want to get them, he said buying maternity pads is the least embarrassing thing ever.

He does have annoying things but I can live with them

[Everybodyleaves]

My LDR DP did an 85 mile / 3 hour commute EACH WAY each day for almost two weeks when I fell and was unable to walk or stand, so he was sure that I had been fed and watered at least twice a day until I could fend for myself. It meant he was with me for only 8/9 hours each night, but he insisted despite my protests about the practicalities.

He's thoughtful and considerate, even with small things like offering cups of tea and wee gifts for me and my DCs, but I thought that was above and beyond

[Purplewithred]

He suggested lending our car to dd who was distraught as she couldn't afford to go to stay with her best friend for her 21st. He is doing a degree despite having absolutely no previous qualifications (couple of rubbish cses). He is going to marry me despite me being quite hard work at times. Love him to bits.

[livingzuid]

I would be dead without my DH. He left his whole life behind and moved countries for me. He was the first person in my life to tell me my behaviour was not normal and I might be sick. He calmly took me to hospital when I couldn't speak and was in a severe psychotic episode, talking to me the whole time about the puppy we would get and all the nice things in life we would do together to stop me from making that final step. He cared for me for so many months whilst awaiting my diagnosis, shouldering the burden without a word of complaint and being so patient and understanding even when my illness led me to gibber hurtful nonsense, seeing the person underneath the pain.

He stands quietly by my side as my only cheerleader and makes me the person I am meant to be. He helped make my life complete with the birth of our first child and I burst with pride to see him hold our dd. He works and yet from the first has gotten up through the night to make sure she is OK so I can sleep.

He's the only person to ever take the time to know and understand me. Loving someone with a mental illness is not always easy, but he manages it with grace, dignity and enormous strength to the point where now we hardly notice my condition. He is, in all senses, my hero.

[temporaryusername]

He has real integrity, deep values that he always honours.
He is a total softie deep down and literally wouldn't hurt a fly. He'd go miles out of his way to re-locate an insect in a suitable place without injuring it (when I've decided that place is not the bed/bath). He loves animals.
He gets things no-one else does. Including some of my jokes.
He is really clever, which is useful.
He has not always had every advantage but he has done amazingly and keeps going even when the slog of everyday life is as it is. He works so hard and doesn't expect anything to be given to him.
He is incredibly loyal and sticks by people for the right reasons, even when they are in trouble and others turn on them. He values the right things in people, but he also sticks by people he really loves even when they have flaws that really conflict with his values.
He doesn't let arrogant entitled types push him around.
He does things that scare him if they need doing. (sometimes!)
He doesn't care about shallow things or what people think and neither do I, useful example - he would not be ashamed to be seen out with me when I look like rubbish, he would just want me to get out and enjoy things even if I say there isn't time for proper clothes/hair/any make-up.
He is a wonderful complex human being and having the intimacy to know someone in that way allows them to become your hero.
He is really cool in my opinion, not in a boring conventional way but in the way his mind works.
He has put up with stuff from me that would have defeated saints. He hasn't always handled it in a text book perfect way but he has always been there and always made me feel loved which has made the world of difference.
He is super cuddly and he smells nice.
He inspires me to try and do for him what he deserves, which is for me to be as healthy and happy as I can be to give him the life I want him to have.
I could go on. We're both imperfect and works in progress to say the least. We have our problems and some major obstacles in life we need to tackle together, he does have features that frustrate me, but that is the thing about your hero/someone you really love- you love something at the core of them and actually that's what it is - I still would even without any of the above good qualities.
I DO hope this won't be famous last words and I'll be starting a thread next week - help, DP has left me/turned out to be an axe-murderer.

[something2say]

My partner is my hero because....
He is very capable and I'm not the only adult.
He has been very successful in his work.
He is funny and has lots of friends.
He cuddles me all night long.
My cat loves him and rubs faces with him.
He pays for my dinner when he hasn't got food in when we stay at his place.
He is very loyal if someone has upset me.
He keeps in touch all day.
We have in jokes and funny songs and ongoing sagas and names for each other etc.
He isn't perfect and nor am I but he's a keeper.



Have a lovely day all!!!

[Fragglewump]

He was helping me clean maggots, fly eggs and grot out of all the wheelie bins last night despite a long day at work which was capped off by an abusive phone call from his boss. We were bleaching and sluicing as the sun set when we would much rather have been drinking wine and relaxing. My hero! Who says romance is dead?

[aprilanne]

well what can i say .my hubby is useless around the house .has never done bugger all except windows in way of house work .BUT .
we have never had a tradesman in diy king he is.
he is a fantastic father .always done his share on the childcare front .
he is kind and considerate .
you can always be assured he is there in a crisis.
i have never once doubted his fidelity .

[Squidstirfry]

I'm going to cry!
I'm PG with our first child... Can't read anymore.
I love my DP and he has made me the luckiest girl alive
xxxxxx

[WiggleGinger]

Fab thread!!!!!!

I've been saying to my DH recently how so many women on MN seem to despise their partners!

I love my DH to the end of the world, he's amazing and the best husband I could wish for. He's also a FANTASTIC daddy to our dd.

We are a fab team, we share everything, I often say it's like our dd has two mums, he does everything I do, we share it all. Bedtimes, bath times, lie ins, taking dd out and about so I can rest (final stages of preg #2) he's there for everything he can be (parents eves/ concerts etc)

He is so clever, he's bright, funny, caring compassionate, loyal! Active and amazing at DIY! He always makes the best of everything!
He chose to take on a 80 mile (round trip) a day commute so that we could live closer to my job and dd would get more time at home with me rather than in childcare after school!

He's the most supportive person i know, he was there for me throughout my parents messy separation and divorce and never once told me how I should feel, he simply stood by me and was amazing!

This month we celebrate our 6 wedding anniversary and have been together 11 years, we are both incredibly proud of this and I just want to shout to all who will listen that I have the best husband I the world!

I would do anything for him and I know he would do ANYTHING for me.

Like the time our DD had colic and he drove to the all night pharmacy for colief and came back with chocolate too! He's just amazing!

Our dd adores him and he dotes on her!

We are a lucky family and that makes me incredibly happy and proud! I couldn't ask for more!

He's my absolute rock!

Lucky girl!!!

[TurboTheChicken]

My husband was diagnosed with cancer just over three years ago, I was pregnant with DC2 at the time. In the last three years he has been through two major surgeries, two further surgeries, radiation treatment, been made redundant, moved house, started a new business, continues to work full time and takes a shit load of drugs with horrible side effects - he NEVER complains or feels sorry for himself. His main focus is totally based on providing for his family in the future.

He's an amazing father and despite everything makes me laugh more than anyone else I know.

This thread has reminded me how incredibly lucky I am to be married to him.

He's shit at loading the dishwasher though.

[ilovelamp82]

Great thread. There are so many sad threads in relationships. It's good for people in thesw awful situations to see that there are good guys out there and how they should be treated :)

[Whocansay]

A thousand little things. We were woken up by a neighbour's house alarm a few nights ago at about 3am. In my sleepy state I was worried that we may have been broken into. Even though he was exhausted and thought I was a nutcase he went downstairs and checked the house out.

And he does all the ironing

I can be a selfish b*tch, but I don't mean to be. He loves me anyway.