I have told H I'm leaving. I'm just waiting on a house. As predicted his behaviour has been appalling since his mum got her terminal diagnosis and as predicted he's used this as an excuse to emotionally, financially and sexually abuse me. Its escalated to the point that I can't sit in the same room as him so I'm off.
Just had a text exchange with him to say its obviously v.diff between us and if he wants me to go now I will (I'll have to move in with my mum & dad & the 3dcs which isn't ideal) and he replied with 'I don't recall asking you to leave. All your choice'. So I replied with:
You've left me no choice though! I can't live with someone whose main aim seems to be to get as angry as they can with me & make life as awkward as they can. It makes no sense. Husbands are meant to be supportive and loving not angry & persistently aggressive. I've tried to change my reactions & not be bothered by it, change myself to what I thought you wanted me to be but it hasn't been enough. You are still angry. You still hate my family. You still think I talk too much. You still think I'm clueless about everything & you know whats best. Nothing I do will change that.
And he hasn't responded. He won't talk to me when he gets in. He'll just ignore that fundamental summary of our relationship breakdown. Its making me wobble & think I'm doing the wrong thing. That I'm crazy or something? This is NOT normal is it? Tell me to keep on keeping on with my exit plan please!!!
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Why isn't he getting it? Am I talking a foreign language?
weedinthepool · 24/07/2014 17:14
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