Hi, i need to get this off my chest and so here go's. If i sound abit flustered i'm trying to give as much info so i can have your help / advise.
My husband of 7 years 14 years together has decided he on longer wants to be with me. He insults me in front of our 7 year old and 2 year old. Calls me a useless mother, as we are going thought the trantrum 2 year old. I work two jobs both parttime of approx 20 hrs over 2 1/2 days during the day and i work evenings and weekends approx 15-20 hrs.
He has his tea on the table when he gets home during the week. Many a friday, saturday and sunday he spends his days getting drunk. He every rarely has to wash up, wash he's own clothes, clean up after himself.
He told me last night after a argument which started over nothing that he was leaving me (this was after a gut load of beer and me working last night - coming home 11pm) that he's leaving me he was very angry and annoyed and i just don't know what happened between me going to bed at 12 midnight to him coming to bed at 2pm!!!!. I'm really confused and very tired i'm at work cos i don't want to be at home, but i'm fallings asleap cos i've been up all night. Hurt and i don't know where to turn. I'm tired of this threats and confused with his demands. I think i have tried my best to provide for the family and him, but he will not lissen. He did do this a month or so ago and i spoke to his dad in private about this, and he said he was a fool, but i managed to try and turn it around. But this time i'm so tired and hot and sick and tired i can#'t be bothered.
On sunday just gone he started shouting at me telling me i'm useless and a bad mother my eldest told me at bedtime 'if you just don't speak to daddy mummy, daddy won't speak back to you and say unkind things'.
i've gone to work today but he said last night he was packing his bags and would be off.
said he was gonna stop paying the mortgage so i would get evicted (the mortgage is solely in his name) and that i would be kicked out on the streets.
i'm scared, i don't know if he's bluffing or off. I'm not exactly a spring chicken. I'm in my 40's. I love him, but I want him to stop drinking and stop blaming me. he's not the only one who works damn hard i do to, i'm not asking for a medal every time i wash up ect i just get on with what i'm doing. I want a happy life with all my family.
any advice would be grateful
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JoanneL123 · 24/07/2014 14:45
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