After 10 years of trying & 3 months of very painful discussions and denial, my husband and I are separating. He has found a flat now but is very much lagging behind in the decision so I feel it has taken all my energy to get to this point. He basically emotionally and physically is unavailable and can be quite bullying. Completely controlling with money.
So in our current 1 and a half bed flat + study is a tense home to us and our 2 year old son until his new flat is ready to be moved into. We live hundreds of miles from (unsupportive) family and friends. I have build new friendships in last 18 months.
He claims he has no friends or family nearby to get to work he also works 50% from home so I'm basically spending every evening in the bedroom counting the hours down to an unfixed moving date. I go out when I can but feel I'm often wandering the streets for another coffee when I'm shattered and want to be at home getting on with life.
DH leaves for work abroad each year, several weeks and months at a time Sept-April so I know that either way flat or flight he'll be gone from this city in 5-6 weeks but I'm worried I'll be hysterical by then.
He won't let me tell anyone about the separation yet either.
I'm so in limbo and about to take on huge study/work commitments in September with a 'summer' that has been absolutely dreadful.
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How to keep my head while living under same roof as ex
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what2eatwhenurbored · 24/07/2014 12:18
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