Hi all,
I have just found out my DP of 6 years has cheated on me 5 times in the past year with a range of other women and men!
I am beyond shocked. My world has just fallen down around me. I was aware things had changed in our relationship over the past year or so. Dp has become very withdrawn and would often cancel nights out and visits to my family at the last minute, saying he was too busy. But I just thought he was stressed out with work.
To make matters worse, we moved to this part of the country for his work and in the time I have been here I still haven't made any friends who I can talk to. I miss my family dreadfully!
We have recently been TTC our first and I think this is why he has come clean when questioned.
I can't stop crying, my whole life has changed in a matter of minutes of me returning from a work trip! I felt that he was being weird while I was away, not texting and calling like usual so confronted him and he told me he had been on the internet searching for prostitutes but "it was ok because I didn't go through with it!" I then spent the evening searching his emails and it all came out.
Every time I have been away over the past year he has cheated on me. 3 out of the 5 times he brought them to our house! He has admitted that he was chatting to the people online and met with them, but completely denying anything happened. Funnily enough I do not believe him.
I have no idea what to do. I am tied into another year's contract at work and with the house (which I cannot afford on my own). I am stuck living with this man I can't even look at!
To make matters worse, he is not an EU national and I currently sponsor his visa for him to live and work in this country. Obviously if we separate the Home Office would need to be informed and he would have to leave the country. Unfortunately for him he has no where else to go, his family are spread around the world, he has never lived in the country where he is a national of and has lived in the UK since he has 17.
I can't stay with him, that much I do know, but I can't kick the man I love back to a country he knows nothing about with no savings (he has borrowed a substantial amount of money from my personal savings over the years to pay for visas etc, so currently has no savings of his own.)
What should I do?
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Heartbroken1 · 24/07/2014 10:52
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