I was just hoping for some advice really and to see if anyone else has gone through the same situation.
When I announced I was pregnant my small group of close friends were excited and made all these promises of 'auntie' duties etc. Since my DS was born almost 2 years ago I can honestly say that not once in all that time other than the initial baby visit have any of them asked to come and see me and my DS. I live around 40 minutes away from most of my friends but always used to be the one to go nearer their neck of the woods for visits to the pub, meals out, going to each other's houses etc, I guess they were always reluctant to come to me as I was the only one living where I do. It's now more difficult for me to visit them although I still have family in that area so always willing to meet. I've gone back to work part time so free two extra days a week which can tie in with a teacher friend when she's off on her holidays from school but still nothing. Not even a text to see how I am, it's always me texting them and I've come to a point where I just want to give up but actually I don't have a wide circle of friends and I'm feeling so lonely without having anyone but my husband to talk to.
I just can't understand what I've done wrong. One of my oldest and closest friends I'm lucky to see at my birthday and her birthday and even then she looks pained to have to talk to me.
I'm not an obsessive mother, I'm proud of my son of course and excited to talk about him, but in all honesty no one ever asks about him so he doesn't come up in conversation when we do meet which kills me that they just don't care, he is part of me after all.
I just don't get it. Part of me just thinks give up, they're not at the same stage of life as I am, none are married, close to, or have kids and still act like they're at uni or something. The idea of asking me how I'm doing is out of their realms. In all honestly I've had a turbulent time of it, from a traumatic birth that kept me in hospital for a week with blood transfusions to struggling with personal anxieties about being a mum and marriage difficulties leading to counselling, I've had no one but my husband to turn to. I just want my friends back, but how we used to be, not this awkward tense and resentment (from my side of how they have behaved for the past 2years) but not sure if it'll ever be that way again.
Any suggestions to repair the friendship or do you think it's a sinking ship?
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