A bit of background:
I have a very close friend who I have known for the past 10 years. We have supported each other through a lot and see each other at least once a week. She was been trying to conceive with her DH for the past 3 years and is currently going through the prep stages of IVF.
I had twins at the start of this year and it has created distance and tension between the two of us. We have tried talking about it but we still don't seem to have found a way forward.
She was upset with me that I didn't tell her we were ttc. I hadn't told anyone as we didn't know how long it would take and didn't want the pressure of people 'expecting' news. As it was, we were incredibly lucky and I was pregnant within 2 months. I didn't want to tell my friend this for obvious reasons.
I was really worried about telling her the news we were having twins after the 12 week scan. She was really good about it but kept making comments about how 'greedy' I was which made me feel awful that I was causing her pain.
We have since had one really tough moment which I caused by being insensitive. I had a tough week with my DTs and was having a moan to her over coffee. I know this was a stupid thing to do and she lost it with me and told me I should be grateful for them which of course I am. I just needed to offload and obviously picked the wrong person.
I constantly worry that I am going to upset her when I am there with my children and I just want to be a good friend to her when she is going through a tough time but I can't avoid her seeing me with my children or sometimes having to discuss them as they are such a huge part of my life now.
Can anyone offer me any advice as to how to handle this or share your own experiences?
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Diamondsareagirls · 23/07/2014 10:44
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