Basically, my DH and I have been under some tension lately. We aren't great communicators (he is worse then me) and I am pregnant and it is Ramadan and we have a 2 year old. So we are currently tired tired people.
He snapped at me at the weekend over some rice. Not really important about the why, it was just an excuse to vent at me. This has been happening repeatedly lately and each time we have let thing blow over. This time I have struggled and we have barely spoken past necessity since Saturday evening.
Even at a growth scan we barely spoke or acknowledged each other.
I have found that I don't want to let it blow over as it keeps happening and he is then really angry at me, gets angrier cos I'm upset he has had a go at me (mostly for no good reason) and then he refuses to talk because he has no energy before eating and has no time after.
Anyway, tonight my sister was arrested - reasons irrelevant - I was worried and upset as you can imagine. He spoke to me with regard to procedures and possible outcomes and he did google a phone number for me to try to find out where she was etc. But not once did he make any contact with me. Not once did he ask if I'm ok. And then he went to bed without even saying goodnight.
I'm now sat in the living room doubly upset cos I just did this unfeeling uncaring behavious too hard to cope with.
Am I being precious? Should he have taken steps to set aside our arguement/bicker/whatever to at least comfort me?
I haven't said anything to him yet as I know if I do he will belittle everything I say and make out it's all in my head and that I'm the one being distant and he is 'giving me space'....
I just feel let down I guess.
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Unsupportive DH... Views please, am I being precious?
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LittleMissRayofHope · 23/07/2014 00:12
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