So poor old DS (despite being awesome obviously) is very much playing second fiddle to his cousin and it is eating me up!
In laws (FIL and SMIL) are always gushing over my niece (daughter of my bil and his wife), how beautiful she is, how clever, sweet etc etc. whereas they just don't seem to give a shit about DS.
We're all in a whats app group so when we send photos and msgs, we all see them. They comment on every single one of my niece...but barely ever on ones of DS I know it's quite a petty thing to be upset over but it just adds up with them not really giving a shit about him. They're supposed to be seeing us this wkd but have cancelled with a flimsy excuse.
DS is 3 in Oct so he's not aware of it thank god (niece is 18months younger).
I think I'm particularly sensitive to it because my dad favoured my sister's first daughter over my son at the beginning too (she's 5 weeks older and he has a thing about first borns ) that has now improved after I kicked off about it to my mum...but I don't feel like I can do that to my in laws without looking deranged and pathetic! And DH would rather just never see them again!
They're basically nice people so I would feel daft cutting them off entirely but this really hurts and it's causing problems between DH and I because he wants to ignore it whereas I can't really.
Anyone else been in a position like this and have any advice?
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Overreactionoftheweek · 22/07/2014 20:19
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