I have been dating a man I met on line for 6 months now. We see each other 1 to 3 nights a week as we both work shifts and he has his son quite often.
I haven't dated a lot but haven't had any relationship stuff to make me not trust (have never been cheated on) but my mum and dad have always had an up and down relationship and my dad is not reliable and he was in contact with his ex at one point and my mum found out.
My BF doesn't talk about feelings much or relationships and I know about his ex wife and have met her and their son but I don't know about his relationships after that. He said early on that he believes that the past belongs in the past. Is it normal not to talk about past relationships? He knows I haven't dated much.
I don't want to ruin this relationship because I am insecure but I don't know how to know if it is a good relationship or not. I am just scared to trust totally and he hasn't really given me a reason to doubt him. He says that he trusts me totally.
He wants me to move in at some point and talked about going on holiday at Christmas time. I have met his family and son and have spent time with them. He does include me in his family life.
I find it kinda hard to believe that he wants to be with me and that he isn't just settling for someone average and easy. The relationship got comfortable quickly and we just do normal stuff together. Neither of us has much spare cash but he will get little things for me and he cooks for me. He tends to be more actions than words. So he hasn't said that I am important to him but he introduced me to his parents and brother and to his son.
Sorry if you are trying to read this as I am just waffling on but I am really starting to think there is something in me that isn't suited to relationships. It can't be normal to overthink like this.
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muchtooshy · 22/07/2014 18:28
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