I posted a little while ago asking for advice on an abusive ex partner and now its all kicked off again. I can't get to speak to my solicitor until tomorrow but my head is spinning.
After 13 years of an abusive relationship, my ex finally left in January. I started off doing everything amicably, giving him days out with the children etc but he continued to still treat them badly and emotionally hurt them by saying things about me and putting them in awkward situations. Once he started that, I stopped contact on the advice of my solicitor and we are going to arrange supervised contact.
Yesterday he arranged with me to come to the house with a police escort to collect his belongings, at 10:30 whilst the children were at school (his suggestion).
When I got to school at 8:45 he was waiting there and followed me in. I asked him to go away but he refused so I had to get the police involved and be taken home. Once at the house the policeman helped me take the stuff from the house whilst the ex waited around the corner (yet he still came to the door and tried to intimidate me)
Then they left and I thought nothing more of it until I left to go to a client's house for work and saw him in the high street behind my house. When I got back home, the school rang and said he had gone into the school and told them he would be collecting the children.
I spoke to the police and my solicitor who advised me to go and collect them early. When I left to get them, I noticed he was parked in a car park up the road and as soon as he saw me he drove off towards the school. Police advised they would meet me there.
He went to both schools to try and collect the children but I already had them. He cornered us in the school grounds and repeatedly told the children to go with him and they'd get pizza but they didn't want to. I got school to let us back in and he followed despite me asking him not to.
We were put into the same rom and he started telling the children that although I had told him I was sorting contact that I actually hadn't and that he can just come and see them anyway - they then became upset and so I asked to be moved away from him until the police arrived.
The police took both sides and decided that we needed to be escorted home safely without him knowing and he was advised that if he came back to the house or nearby he'd be arrested.
Then he started texting last night and made a comment about someone I've started seeing which made me realise that he has been watching the house, as there's no way he'd know anything about it. I put it to him and he didn't deny it. He's now just sent me a text saying 'If you are in a relationship I need his name for my brief'
I don't have to tell him anything do I? He makes me doubt everything and feel like I'm doing something wrong.
I also feel sick at the thought that he's been sitting somewhere watching the house :(
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Abusive ex, stalking, trying to take the kids and unreasonable demands...advice please!!
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zephyrcat · 22/07/2014 18:01
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