A small update.. and a big thank you...

[JonesTheSteam]

... to everyone who posted on my original thread...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1984782-Cant-be-bothered-to-name-change-Discovered-emails-on-DHs-phone

Almost six months on and DH and I are doing really well.

It's been very hard. Some days are still hard. But if they are, we talk.

Overall I am very hopeful for the future. DH is back to being the loving, kind, generous, affectionate man I married. In fact a better version in many ways. Far more self aware, more honest, tells me things he would have bottled up in the past. More considerate. Totally invested in repairing our marriage and improving our relationship. Tells me he loves me, loads of cuddles. If I seem sad, he asks why and then comforts me. When we are together in the same room he is completely with me. His mind isn't elsewhere. And we spend a lot more time together and we get on amazingly well.

I'm not going to go into the why's and how's of the affair as this isn't what this thread is all about. I believe we have both got to the point where we know what happened and why and he knows what boundaries he didn't put up and why he did what he did. I don't need to discuss that on this thread.

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who posted and for their support early on in all this. I don't think I could have got through this without it.

[hellsbellsmelons]

That's good to hear.
Not many take the road you have.
IMHO it's the harder of the 2 for sure.
Takes much more work, time and dedication.
But it's working for you and that's great.
I hope things just keep getting better and better.

[AnyFucker]

Congratulations, Jones. I wish you well.

[JohnFarleysRuskin]

I always had a good feeling about you two! (smug!)

This is good to hear.

[pausingforbreath]

Great news ??

It's nice to hear it CAN work out , with both of you happy again after some hard work & soul searching.

I / we have now passed the '2yr timeframe' . We're happy, I'm comfortable with the decision not to throw in the towel on our marraige straight off learning of his affair (as my first reaction was to do).

Onwards & upwards to you Jones.
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[HotDogJumpingFrogAlburquerque]

I read your thread, Jones, it was very honest.

I hope it all works out for you both.

[JonesTheSteam]

JohnFarley

I laughed out loud at the [smug] bit!