I have now been NC with my parents and sister for just over a year.
I am in my thirties now but since childhood my parents have favoured my sister, who is 3 years' younger than me. My sister has lapped this up and played up to the fact.
As a child I was told off a lot, smacked, called names, and many other abusive things. My sister was treated like a princess. My sister would do things like shout really loudly to get me into trouble, and would make up things that I'd done. She would also join in with my parents behaviour towards me, calling me weird and ugly.
Things were ok-ish for a few years when I moved out of home, but since my sister and I had children, the favouritism started again, and about a year ago I finally snapped and went non contact with the lot of them. My sister's children have always been treated far more favourably than my children, and my children were starting to notice. The crunch came when last summer I was unwell and was in hospital for a few days. My parents refused to help with the children in any way, and didn't give me any support or sympathy. The following week my sister hurt her finger and they ran around after her like she was royalty, looking after her DCs and doing her housework. My mum's words to me when I challenged her were "Well there was nothing bad wrong with you, you're still here to tell the tale". So I decided enough was enough.
My eldest child is 16, and my parents, despite never showing any interest in her, are now wanting to see her all the time, and keep asking her to go and stay the night at theirs, which she does, as obviously I cannot stop her. What bugs me is when I worked evenings years ago they refused to even have DD for the occasional evening if DH had to work late as they said they wanted it to be just the two of them in the evenings, yet now they will have DD overnight just to get at me!
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Has anyone else gone NC with family due to sibling favouritism?
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RedHairpiece · 22/07/2014 11:51
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