Am a regular on MN but have name changed.
DH's debt is massive, double what I thought. People live off less. He's setting up a new business but this is personal debt and I don't know when he will be getting money coming in. I knew this would be the case and I've been covering the mortgage, childcare, etc during this time, but I've just found out I may lose my job in a couple of months, and there's not much comparable pay-wise around here.
I've always been really careful with money, but not in a relationship it seems. We've talked about the debt and business plans before, talked through options of managing the debt and I thought everything was on track, but it appears not. We have to remortgage early next year and at this rate there isn't a hope in hell. He's just continuing to rack up the debt by continue to pay maintenance for his kids and paying off bank loans. It's been a crap few months, not spending anything, not being able to take the kids anywhere. I knew it would be a tough few months until the business got off the ground, but I wasn't expecting this level of debt. It's going to take a few years to pay off, even if we both had money coming in. He's got his head stuck in the bloody sand.
I own a house I let out, but that's my safety net if anything went wrong between us, not for bailing him out because he keeps ignoring the debt.
I'm so cross with him. I feel completely trapped. How the hell do we (HE) get ourselves out of this? All hopes are pinned on the business, no other option will pay it off .
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Just found out extent of DHs debt.
NoPenniesLeftToCount · 21/07/2014 11:24
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