My mother has moderately severe narcissistic personality disorder. She is therefore extremely devoted to and focussed on herself, lacking in empathy, little if any awareness of boundaries, driven by need for attention, talks about and thinks about herself... etc etc. I've had it my whole life, she neglected me in childhood because of her relentless focus on herself and her career/status and her lack of normal emotion, which resulted in my going through 1 traumatic experience alone, unsupported, and an experience of sexual molestation, unsupported. She wasn't available, interested or sufficiently able to be a mother. So needless to say she churns up some pretty powerful emotions when I see her.
I don't really speak to her on the phone and I broke off contact for a while but I see parents sometimes as my kids like seeing them. I want my kids to enjoy having grandparents. It's just a total headache and emotional rollercoaster for me when they come. Obviously I'm having therapy about it.
I want to just find peace... she won't change, they won't change. I feel revulsion. She has been so oblivious to her own children in essence people with npd have children for what they will get out of it and that's how it still is. She comes and mostly takes emotionally. A bit of a vampire.
Do you have any tips, experience, pointers for how to manage this kind of family relationship without getting blown about emotionally. I don't want her to dominate my emotions anymore. Thanks.
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2littlerascals · 18/07/2014 08:19
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