We have recently come through a rough period in our relationship. My boyfriend works away a lot. I stay at home combining my work with looking after our 3 teenage kids, all my boyfriends from his previous relationship. When he is at home sometimes it is as if myself and the kids hardly exist. His whole life revolves around his work. A while ago i gave him an ultimatum, that if he didnt spend more time at home with me and HIS kids i was leaving him. I foolishly acused him of having affairs when he was working away, and that was why he wasnt interested in me anymore. I know i was wrong to say that , as i had no proof and it was heat of the moment. He denied that and promised he still loved me. He said he would spend more time at home with us and change
He said he would prove he loved us and make it up to us all.
Now when he works away he brings us all little gifts back. I now frequently get flowers sent. However my gifts although sometimes nice things too, always includes new underwear. Some is really nice and pretty, but other times it is quite tacky. He always asks if i am wearing it when he phones. But the thing that really annoys me is the first thing he ever does when he gets home is give me a kiss, then lift my top and my skirt up, or undo my jeans to see if i am wearing my new underwear. He then takes me straight to bed if i am wearing it. Yes, the sex is great, better than ever before. But he is just now trying too hard to make it up to me, and i know what the ritual is as soon as he gets home. I know i should be flattered and enjoy this, which part of me does. But another part of me is getting pissed off with it ! Sometimes he even does it when the kids are around, which i find embarassing. I have told him how i feel, but he says it proves how much he loves me and misses me. Am i being unfair ?
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tanya1010 · 12/07/2014 23:54
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