I have been in an on/off relationship with ds(6)'s dad for 6 years (together for 9 years, things went wrong when I got pregnant (planned) and he went off on 14 hour drug/drinking binges.
There is FAR too much history (his lies/gaslighting/EA) to write here, but in March of this year, we got back together. This was IT. An adult, mature relationship where we would talk our problems and feelings through.
He started being funny with me about 6 weeks ago: said he hadn't felt "welcome" at my house (it was DD13's bday and I had a houseful of family and friends - he went straight upstairs to play with ds then left without telling anyone he was going - ds was searching the house and garden for him)
I went to his house unannounced tonight, DS walked in. "D"P walked out to meet us in the hallway and said he was busy. I went upstairs to find that my toiletries were hidden in a bag in the cleaning cupboard (I wanted my sponge bag for DS's swimming lesson tomorrow am)
I cam down to "D"P holding ds in the front room, preventing him from going in the kitchen, saying there was nothing in the kitchen for him.
I opened the door to the back room, and there, under soft lightig, wine and DVDs, was a woman. I said "hello, I don't suppose he's told you about me, has he?" and she dropped her face into her hands. She told me it hadn't been going on long, and "D"P claimed that we'd been over "AGES AGO".
I offered to show her text messages in order to prove our ongoing relationship, but "D"P wrestled my phone out of my hands. I told her we'd been on holiday recently for half term, that we'd booked another family holiday for summer, and that he'd spent last weekend with us at the beach.
He said "I'd do anything to be with my son" - as if he had to tear off my clothes and proclaim his undying love for me to get access (which he had had regularly two overnights a week and the last weekend of every month - BEFORE we got back together)
Now I'm having a conversation with his fucking MOTHER who says she knew about OW as she had put herself in a relationship with him on FB, but knew nothing about ME being back with him.
I felt nothing at the time. Now I'm angry. I'm not hurt, or betrayed, or disappointed. It's par for the course with him.
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RingleaderOfTheTormentors · 28/06/2014 03:07
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