Hi,
Long time lurker and first time poster, I just wrote out a huge post which took hours with a back story and for some reason when it came to posting I lost the lot ... I will try to write it all down again when I get a chance but to cut a very very long story short please help with WYWD. Having read a lot of the posts in the Relationship section your opinion would be appreciated.
My husband has a good friend lets call him Ben, Ben is a Dr, at the top of his game and well respected, we don't really socialise together and I have never met his wife but she is also a Dr and works around the family, they have 3 children under 16. I know him but not well and we don't really know his wife, other than we know she is a lovely lady and great mother. They are both in their 40's.
So over the last few years my husband has known him he has talked of using prostitutes, tells my husband stories of a 'friend' of his who has a transgender prostitute come round and give his friend blowjobs as men know how to do it better and its the best of both worlds, talks of his upbringing (all boys boarding school) and the things boys got up to. My DH laughs it off and tells me and I just tell him that I think the guy is a sleaze and his poor wife has no idea who her husband actually is and what he may be bringing home to her. Apparently this man has had multiple affairs and is the type that is always sleazy around younger girls, thinks he can charm them with his 'down with the kids' attitude and they will be over awed by his job title.
To the outside world he is a loving caring father and husband, 5 star holidays, the big house the fancy cars etc. DH knows his wife has no idea of who her husband actually is. The other night DH was telling me that Ben was claiming to colleagues and had told his wife he had to go away on particular dates to a conference but told my DH he was away to watch lots of naked people(?) doing some protest thing. The guy is an out and out dirty man and the more I hear of him the more I want to let his wife know somehow what he is up to. I saw his wife in the supermarket once and she had this sadness behind her eyes and my heart just went out to her. I know its not my place and I could never tell DH I was contemplating this as he would tell me to stay out of it, but I really feel for her. This is just the tip of the iceberg with this man. And no my Dh would never say anything to him as according to my DH the guy obviously has issues and its none of his business.
WWYD? Please don't re quote this in case I wish to delete post as he could be quite identifiable from the little I've said.
Thanks all.
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dilemma101 · 03/05/2014 15:40
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