Just need a safe place to let all of this out. I hope for some constructive advice.
Background - left partner three months ago. He wasnt bothered about family life despite us having a dd aged 5. All his energies went on himself, his job, his hobby.. I was left with him sat on the sofa drinking every time he was in my company. No interest in doing up or anything to our house. Used his dominant size, and personality to take over the house. I had to sleep in spare room, I had to watch tv upstairs
Any way I left as he wouldnt - took dd and my older son with me (another relationship) I am in a small flat. Its ok. He is in our four bed detached house. I wanted to stay and I would have managed to pay the mortgage from my salary, tax credits and some savings i have- until house was sold or rented. But he was having none of it.. So the plan was he would stay in house till i was sold/rented.
For the past two months I have had to chip in wiith the mortgage despite me having my own rent to pay! I have done this as I could just about manage too.. He is not bothered about doing viewings or doing any of the little jobs that need doing to our house. He is just not helping:((
The final straws are him not giving me any money towards our daughter. And I have just found out he has not paid this months mortgage- despite me giving him some towards it. Oh and he has just been away for ten days abroad! smokes and drinks!!
What the hell I am going to do :(((
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Just need to vent! feel so helpless!!!
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newstartforme · 03/05/2014 12:41
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