I am not sure what I am looking for here because I am sure all the answers will be the obvious ones "better to find out now" and "he did the right thing" but I do know all that.
I just want to somehow find a way to not feel so worthless inside myself.
My Fiance broke off our engagement a few weeks ago. He just decided he didn't want to marry me and there's no one else involved. I am not looking to analyse his reasons for what he did because I've done that to death. The simple answer was that he just did not want me anymore.
The thing that I am struggling with is that this guy really worked to break down my walls. I didn't want to get married when I met him having been hurt in the past and I was happy on my own. He really worked hard to get me to let him into my life and to trust him.
After a couple of years he really won me over and for the first time in my life I really felt like I trusted a man and like I was with someone who really loved me for myself. He proposed and things were all great as far as I knew.
Then he dropped this on me about 8 months after he proposed. He just told me that certain things about me that he thought were quirky were actually annoying (stuff he'd said he thought was cute) and he said he just stopped feeling the rush of excitement about me.
He was pretty cold and clinical about it and didn't really even want to talk about it.
All I want to do is to know how to feel better inside because I can't stop thinking that I gave him everything I was and he told me he loved every bit of me and then just changed his mind.
The quirks about me that he'd always said made me "me" and were sexy and adorable he turned on me as reasons for not loving me and I now feel like I couldn't ever be myself with someone else.
Do you think there's a chance that there is just something really wrong with me? Like maybe that if people get to know me well enough they don't like me anymore?
He knew this was always my greatest fear when we met because my previous love did something similar. I hate that he was capable of delivering my worst fear to me. I never asked him to chase after me or to propose and can;t understand why he did it just to reject me.
I feel like nothing....
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He broke off our engagement - feel so worthless
georgiestears · 05/04/2014 10:40
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