For a long time my dh complained of my lack of interest in sex and me not coming onto him. Although we did have sex regularly, up to 3 times a week.
For that period, roughly around a year (including pregnancy) I was called frigid
Anyway since having had my baby my libido has shot up and I cannot get enough of him. We were at it as much as we could and he seemed to be happy with my new found sexual appetite.
But fastforward 2 months I think he has become rather tired of my advances and instead of talking to me he has just allowed my behaviour to continue without a word but a huff and puff when I come on to him and a few droops inbetween.
After speaking to him this weekend just gone after his disinterest in me, I decided I will calm down for a little bit and not expect to much as he feels under pressure.
Today we have made love once, but in the evening I couldn't contain myself and decided to come into the room with no underwear on to entice him from playing his computer game. I thought it had worked as he came to lie with me on the sofa. So I touched his crutch , he just grunted at me and told me to stop with this.
Later on after realising I was upset he said he was sorry and he didn't mean what he said.
I feel rejected tbh as now he has had his few months of fun he can no longer be arsed, but had the cheek to moan for a year I was frigid.
I don't get men sometimes.
It's always moans of "too little sex" then they moan "too much"
What would you mnetters consider too much? a mans point of view would be good too.
Fwiw we have been together 10 years this july coming.
Am I expecting too much ?
I feel like he has really put me back into my old ways now but I can't win as I will be called frigid again should I go back that way.
How do you get over the rejection of someone saying no to your advances?
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Dh cannot keep up with me!
pumpkinsweetie · 17/03/2014 21:53
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I do wonder tbh...
I don't know really, I suppose I feel a very deep connection at the moment and I thought the feeling was mutual.
For a while I felt as if we were a new couple again, sharing new parenthood again, films together, walks together. Things became very intense and my love for him grew, which I guess where the sexual attraction arose from.
But of late he has got into a new computer game and seems to spend many of a time on it, not really interacting with me and when he isn't playing it he is reading up strategies about it on his mobile phone.
I will get into conversation with him thinking he is listening and he turns out later on he wasn't listening at all
We have come far as we have 5 children together and many arguments along the way, especially ones involving toxic ils that nearly ruined our marriage and we have since overcome the problems they bought to our relationship by severing ties. I found out dh was beaten as a child and his parents still manipulated him until recently.
Knowing he had finally confided in me also strengthened our relationship.
Tbh I was enjoying our moments of passion and now he has become so disrespondant I am starting to feel rejected and the last few times we made love I really wasn't feeling it myself.
Thankyou for your post nooka think you have hit the nail on the head.
I should stop focusing so much, as there is a lot of love & sometimes lust. I just have to realise what I have, not what I don't.
I also need to stop feeling so rejected as I was expecting too much that most wouldn't be able to keep up 
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