This guy seemed really sweet to begin with but after we got married I found out he'd run up loads of debts behind my back. It wasn't the debts that bothered me, it was the lies that accompanied it. I cannot abide that. Anyways, because I loved him and believe that everyone is entitled to make mistakes, I forgave him and helped bail him out of the situation. He promised he wouldn't do it again and didn't but I kept an eye on him until I gradually gave back some trust and then all of it.
Five years on from that, he casually walks in the room last night, without a care in the world, and announces he's in trouble with money again. Luckily it's not too much but he also confessed he'd lost his job two months ago. Again, it's not the job loss, it's the pretending to go to work and being a straight faced liar that hurts me.
I don't believe he loves me, how can you love someone and then take the piss like that? It's disrespectful and carefree to the point of a teenage mind set. This guy is 40. He's also educated and intelligent, so it's not stupidity. Apparently, according to him, it was fear. I would have thought it would be more frightening to potentially lose your home, wife and family but what do I know. I say why did you say X and X if it wasn't true. You needn't have said anything at all. The answer - I don't know.
Fantastic.
I don't think I love him anymore, I just don't know, I can't tell, and maybe even past caring now. There's been a lot of other ups and downs. Is this worth bothering with anymore?
Should I just have a spring clean and chuck out all the shite?
Why has this happened, again?
Any insight to why he's done this would be good cuz I just don't get it. If it were me, I would just come home and say "I lost my job today. What we going to do?" Or something old fashioned like that so we could work it out together. What would you do about this? Do you know anyone like this?
I think he must be very very selfish and proud that he puts himself above everyone and everything. Am I right?
Thank you
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Think I may have married a proper loser. What would you do?
skybat · 06/03/2014 22:56
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