Hello
I've-posted before and don't really know what I'm hoping to get from it. Just need to post really, I've spoken to friends and they all tell me the same thing that my ex is a complete twat and that I do too much for my kids.
The latest is that he refuses point blank to take them anywhere they need to go, including picking my dd up from her part time job. We live in the sticks she finishes late at night, too far to walk, very lonely country lane and no buses but above all he got her the job!
Even though I do the vast majority he refuses to do even a tiny amount, he would rather her get the sack I suppose.
I have tried to speak to dd about it, suggesting that she doesn't play ball when he wants to parade her in front of ow family which all seems just for show.
I don't have a problem with my dcs seeing their dad or ow but everything seems to be entirely on his terms, they are a nightmare when they come home and I know this is their reaction to the separation.
All he seems to care about are ow kids and it is heartbreaking to witness.
He didn't give our eldest dd a thing for her birthday , yet here he is again after telling dd2 that he will not take her where she needs to be this weekend but can she come to ow daughter birthday party which he has arranged!
Last week he held a party for her youngest daughter and too my dcs to it.
He promised our dcs to take him to a football match for his birthday, this was several months ago, he still hasn't.
I know I should zone out and believe me I try but I am livid at his twattishness.
We were married for 20 years and all our dcs were planned and yet he behaves in this way.
Oh and he left us in debt but spends lavish amounts on ow and her dcs but tells mine that he cannot afford the petrol to take them anywhere!
Sorry for long post thanks for reading any advice at all or thoughts welcome.
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Is there any way to stop my ex from acting like an arse?
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feelingvunerable · 19/02/2014 22:43
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