Hi
Please help me help my friend - I'm all out of suggestions on what to say or do.
My friend started seeing a old flame in March last year, he is in the army so only went on a few dates up until May but constantly texting each other.
Then when she started to get serious, asked about being in a relationship. He went cold started to ignore her texts / calls.
When he did reply she'd get yes or no answers and eventual told her he didn't want a relationship.
She still pursued the relationship texting him/ calling him, even though me and my friend kept telling her he's not interested, she deserves better etc etc.
If we said anything about him - an excuse was made as to why he was ignoring her.
Before Christmas he told her not to contact him and it seemed she was finally moving on, she even had a date with someone else but after a couple of dates, she stopped it saying she "felt guilty as if she was cheating" and she was going to wait for x to change his mind and will wait as long as it takes.
She still constantly textes and calls him, occasionally he'll answer but not much - she was devasted that he hadn't sent a valentines day card.
I don't know what to say to her anymore, she's a grown woman. I've been there when she been crying(many times) taken her out to take her mind of things, booked a holiday, told her she needs to shake out of it but it's like she obsessed and/or addicted. I asked her to go to the doctors but she won't. It's not normal she actually only went on a few dates (previously there did have a relationship) but she's crying constantly - lost a lot of weight.
Me and my friend are completely stuck on what to do next, we will always be there for her.
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How do I made friend realise there's no future to be had
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Tinker2013 · 17/02/2014 22:02
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