...or is it him making a mess of things?
I found out that DP was going to sleep on his ex's couch on Friday night as he couldn't stay where he normally stays (or so he says) when he's going to see his children. She sent him a text in the middle of the night asking whether he was still coming up. He initially claimed that he had no idea why she was asking that but seeing that I wasn't buying it, he eventually told the story about the sleeping arrangement.
On the basis that I was introduced to the ex when I met the DC, I am not entirely sure I have anything to worry about with regards to the couch itself... However, there was the lie. It feels that I am not being treated with the respect that I deserve to be honest. I wouldn't go to sleep on my ex's couch, I would get a room somewhere. Or I would at the very least talk to my DP about the situation. And then sit there lying to your face???
We've been living together for a few months now, I've met his children once but it seems odd that whilst I am sharing and opening my life to somebody, I only found out about his DCs' birthdays accidentally. One of them he was obviously there for the weekend but never mentioned what they had done, how they had celebrated or even the birthday itself! This weekend was the second one's and again only heard about it on Thursday.
I can't make much sense of what is going through my head at the moment. Most of all, I feel that we (DS and I) are excluded from that part of DP's life. I've always been very opened and these are surely day-to-day things which you at the very least mention to each other: "It's DS' birthday on 00/00 and he's all excited about his party bla bla bla...".
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