So, about 2 weeks ago I finally summoned up the courage to tell my DH that I wanted out - it's taken a long time (I can't tell you how many times it has stuck in my throat), but the idea of spending time with him filled me with dread and now the words are out there...
He took it remarkably well. This is a man well known for his over-reactions. But he was calm and understanding and (so far at least) we have found an amicable way of agreeing how to move forward. I can afford to buy him out the house and he has found a house he has decided to buy, but now he has asked that he stays in the house until he can move into his new place (so that he can see our two young children and so that he doesn't have to 'throw money away' on rent). The problem is I now feel that I am trapped in a no-mans-land. When the kids are around we play act that everything is normal, when they are asleep he seems to spend the majority of the time trying to convince me that I've made a stupid mistake. He suffers from depression so I feel like I need to try to do this as gently as possible, but I feel more tied down and restricted than ever now. I know that (assuming the purchase of his house goes through ok) there is only so long this can drag out for, but it's like I've made this huge step by making the decisions and it has come to nothing...
Tonight I asked him if he wanted me to order some Christmas cards for him from the kids school and he acted really surprised. I suddenly realised he thought we'd be sending cards together - I thought he'd be moved out well before Christmas...
Sorry - starting to ramble now. i just need to get this off my chest. Thought I'd done the hardest part :-( Any thoughts or similar experiences out there??
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Bigbird01 · 06/11/2013 22:59
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