Hi and thank you for reading. I am having a real dilemma whether to break ties with my sister or not and would really appreciate some objective advice.
She is not an easy person, we had a difficult upbringing living in an isolated place with both parents having mental health problems and not offering love or support, we were not really close either as our parents played a lot of divisive games. Anyway, fast forward to now and we are in our 40s, I am younger by 2 years.
I chose to marry and have my own family, I guess try to 'do it right', don't we all? She chose to be sterilised at a young age (mid 20s) and has never married although she did have a long relationship which was like marriage.
The bottom line is, she really doesn't like my kids. She doesn't like kids full stop and will tell anyone who listens. There have been many times when I've felt like just not having anything to do with her but I always try and resolve things. I don't think she's a bad person but wonder is there enough in common to keep up what feels like a pretend relationship? Maybe this is what sisters are like with each other?
The last few weeks have brought up a few incidents which make me feel like not having her in my or my children's lives. She smacked my eldest son, for example. It's like what people say with bad partnerships - should it be this hard?! I would appreciate anyone else's viewpoint. Thank you.
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To break ties with my sister or not?
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jellyrolly · 06/11/2013 17:42
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