I posted before under a different name and lot of people gave me great advice.
Since then, I have had a baby and while relations have improved with her.. I am still upset. Basically she is critical, short tempered and opinionated. She wasnt a woman to boost your confidence.. Especially as a teen and young woman. Anyway, I have become very indpependent over the years.. She still has a hold on me. When I got married, she stirred shit with my father and dh.. She often tells me she doesn't want to be here anymore (ie. doesn't want to live). Yet when company is around her she is the life and soul of the party. Nobody would believe me except a few that she has turned on.
When she comes over, she puts baby in her face.. Go on smile.. Go on smile.. I think she is trying to be nice. Then it's constant .. Oh you need different bottle types, oh he needs to be in brighter colours, oh I don't like him on the floor (in babygym), oh such and such has a fanastic buggy, oh they are a fanastic mother ( hint hint... I am not)
I try to respect her and have tried some things she has suggested like faster flowing tears.. Totally wrong... Made him full of wind.
I think what is hurting me is not the advice (I have a lovely caring mother in law I can talk to and few friends who were pregnant same time as me I can trust). She was a terrible mother.. Took me years to admit it. She doesn't like changing nappies.. She moaned and moaned how hard we were, dismisses all achievements.
It just pisses me off that she thinks her advice is great... Grrrr... Sorry for all that...
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Mrspebble · 04/11/2013 12:49
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