Can you help me unpick this, please? I'd like to know whether I am nitpicking or he is not really the man for me.
I'm a regular, NC.
The good news is this is not terrible in the way some posts are, this is fairly low key but it's bugging me.
My BF is a decent man, we've been together a year, no red flags although there are a few small to medium sized things that make me question things a bit.
He wanted us to move in together in the summer but I put him off for the time being.
Now he wants us to look for houses to rent again.
I love him, I like him, I'm happy in his company.
But every time I think about moving in with him I want to run for the hills.
I'm in my 40s, my DCs have grown up so I'm not a teenager wondering about this.
I left my stbxh a couple of years ago, Bf was my first boyfriend afterwards. I think my marriage split has made me doubt my judgement of men.
Bf is a good man, he works hard, he has a good job, he is kind to me.
But we don't laugh much together, I'm quite humorous but he often doesn't get the joke, it's not just me either. He doesn't find much to laugh at generally.
He works away a lot, which is fine but last Wednesday he was flying out late at night so he had the day off, he spent his day off at my house while I was at work and he didn't do anything, not even wash up after himself. So I came home to a mess after he'd had the day off.
It's only minor but am I being flaky to have concerns about my future life with someone who doesn't automatically do a little bit of housework without being asked and who doesn't laugh much at all?
There are other small things too.
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I'm just not sure
orangeandgreen · 27/10/2013 11:12
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