Hi
I have been with my partner for nearly 10 years. We are in a civil partnership. I hit 30 and was broody but decided I didn't want kids (was in a previous relationship) I am aged 42 and my partner is 43 and has told me she feels broody and has discussed the idea of having a baby with her friends who are all supportive of the idea. I have health issues and struggle to work 30hours a week and just don't feel I have the energy or desire to bring up a child. I love kids but I just don't want one. My partner feels a child would give her life more meaning/purpose and that I should be compassionate and talk the issue through but I am struggling to do this. I feel this is more about her personality and that you can get meaning in life in lots of ways without necessarily having kids.I believe she avoids engaging in any activities outside of work that would give her life more meaning-as do my friends.
We have spent the last two years getting a visa to emigrate to Australia-this has been granted and I have a good job there starting in February. She would join me (that was the plan) after some surgery we have been fighting the local NHS for, for 5 months -this has now been agreed.
I feel really angry that this additional issue has suddenly been added to what's already a stressful time. My way of coping is to cut myself off and let her get on with feeling what single will be like -just the way I am . I just feel that I don't know what to do...she says the feelings may pass?
She was pregnant in her 20's but had a miscarriage and felt at that time she didn't have the resources to bring up a child alone anyway..
any advice please help?! thanks
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I don't want baby but my partner is really broody -aged 43 does
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