Please can you help me make my decision? I’ve lurked on these pages for a while (looking for answers to my own problem in the posts made by others).
In a nutshell, I’ve been with DH for 12 years and we have 1 DD who is 4 (just started school). The problem is that my feelings for him have changed and I no longer fancy him and truth be told I no longer want to be with him (in fact if it weren’t for DD I’m 99% sure I’d have split with him). The problem is I worry about the consequences that us splitting up will have on DD.
I told DH how I felt about 4 months ago and I was shocked at his response. I really was expecting him to say that we should split up because I couldnt believe he was happy either. In actual fact he told me that he really didn’t want to split up, thought it would be terrible for DD, that he still loved me a lot and would try to change the things I had issues with. To be fair to him, he has made a real effort (e.g spends more of his spare time with us now, helps more, tries to be less grumpy and argumentative). I’m impressed with how much he is trying to make it work. The problem is that despite this I still don’t feel like I love him as I should and I’m not sexually attracted to him in the slightest.
Any advice appreciated.
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I want to leave my DH but I feel so guilty
FliptheCoin · 25/10/2013 12:18
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