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Oh God! Just looked up H OW on FB - feel sick

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Whatnext074 · 12/10/2013 23:52

I know I shouldn't have done it but I was curious. Yesterday I told myself that I didn't need to search for her but I just did, I didn't know her surname but just did a search under her first name and location.

My H told me she was older than me but she doesn't look it and I feel so sick as she is stunning. I feel sick, I feel sick! It's all in my head now and I shouldn't have looked. I'm just torturing myself. I'll never get better.

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BabylonReturns · 12/10/2013 23:55

You only think she's stunning because your confidence has taken a big battering - thanks to your H.

If she's that stunning, why is she chasing married men?

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ITCouldBeWorse · 12/10/2013 23:58

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Whatnext074 · 13/10/2013 00:02

There are lots of pictures of her and she looks like a model. He's not coming back - he has destroyed me.

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Whatnext074 · 13/10/2013 00:03

I can't take this pain, I want it to end. I hurt so much. I'm sorry.

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reelingintheyears · 13/10/2013 00:05

Block her, then the next time you're tempted to torture yourself you'll have to go through all the un blocking which should give you time to realise what you're doing and stop.

Hope you're ok.

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uptheanty · 13/10/2013 00:06

Ffs fb is a pile of shit.

I came off fb years ago for this very reason. It makes people feel crap.

I looked feckin beautiful on my pics, that's why i posted them...

So did she!

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Tiptops · 13/10/2013 00:08

I'm so sorry you're hurting like this. Do you have anyone in RL who can come and support you? I know it will be impossible to put this out of your mind but could you watch a movie or read a book to give yourself a couple of hours to think about something else?

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MrsEdinburgh · 13/10/2013 00:08

Please don't do anything rash. Yes it will hurt badly....but you are stronger.
He's the stupid/weak one, too spineless or stupid to say he's not happy or content.

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beaglesaresweet · 13/10/2013 00:09

OP, try to breathe slowly. Think rationally for a moment - would it be any netter if he wasn't stunning? it really doesn't matter. Also if he's so shalow that he has to chase stunners, above all else, then this wouldn't last either, once she is older or he finds some other flaw. Everyone has their 'bad day' look, even stunners, so his illusion will be shattered soon.

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BabylonReturns · 13/10/2013 00:10

Just as uptheanty says.

I look gorgeous in my FB profile. But it was taken on my honeymoon, I was three dress sizes smaller, my hair was beautiful and long and blonde.....

Now??? Well I still have the same name, but that's about it!!!!

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beaglesaresweet · 13/10/2013 00:10

she, not 'he'

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OldBagWantsNewBag · 13/10/2013 00:17

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Whatnext074 · 13/10/2013 00:43

I phoned him for the first time since he left. I'm distraught, he doesn't care. I've had enough. I'm sorry.

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nameimadeupjustnow · 13/10/2013 00:47

Whatnext, I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. We'll talk to you, but is there someone you can call right now in RL?

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nameimadeupjustnow · 13/10/2013 00:48

Someone who will make you feel better, and not your shallow, pathetic H!

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HardFacedCareeristBitchNigel · 13/10/2013 00:50

I look fucking amazing on fb. The picture is 10 years old and about 5 stone lighter. And retouched.

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Me2Me2 · 13/10/2013 00:55

Yup we stick up pics we want others to see. Turn away. An affair stinks full stop. As for the OW, there would be reasons to feel insulted whatever her appearance

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Whatnext074 · 13/10/2013 01:03

They look perfect together. He didn't care, just said I woke him up and told me it's not the OW fault. He's hurt me beyond belief, other people get through this, get angry, but I'm going backwards. I can't see a way out. I've written down some things for him and my DS. I'm so tired and can't see a way out. I am so weak, I should be strong, I'm not, I used to be. I loved him, he's destroyed me. I'm sorry. It's late so there's nobody in RL now.

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Pajimjams · 13/10/2013 01:05

Please

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Pajimjams · 13/10/2013 01:06

Please please don't make any big decisions about anything now. It's late and you are in shock.
Stay here and talk to us.
You are not alone.
You need to survive for your boy.
Keep safe

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joanofarchitrave · 13/10/2013 01:09

Whatnext please call the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90 just to hear a human voice. I'm so sorry you feel so bad.

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LovePotatoes · 13/10/2013 01:09

Hello. didnt want to read and not answer your post. What do you mean you have written down somethings for your H and DS? Are you planning on hurting yourself? No one is worth hurting yourself!

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Mellowandfruitful · 13/10/2013 01:10

Ring the Samaritans now.

She is ugly on the inside. Your son needs you and you will always be beautiful to him. He can't replace you.

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Whatnext074 · 13/10/2013 01:11

I would have loved him forever. He doesn't care, even when I phoned him, just said that I woke him up.

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CCTVmum · 13/10/2013 01:13

Disconnect from FB, don't torture yourself anymore.

Are you a bit tipsy? Try to go to bed and sleep. You have a wonderful DS who would be destroyed without you. Just think of DS from now on. It does get easier it is just raw the wounds do heal honest.

He is a cheat and he will do this to her soon too as it is who he is....you will be delighted one day and realise how much better your life is without the cheating twab in your life!

Watch soaps or lurk old posts here on MN if you cant concentrate or sleep. You are not alone.

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