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Another twunt bites the dust.......will I ever learn?

(15 Posts)
NutritiousAndDelicious Mon 30-Sep-13 18:56:00

Have been single since New Year's Eve 2012 so Nearly 9 months.

In feb I went out for a date with a friend of a friend, he showed me pictures of his stag do, that happened a week before his w2b called off the wedding, showed me pics of his dog, his ex w2b, called everyone and everything gay, laughed at an overweight girl in a dress, tried to get me drunk by buying me triples! And dry humped me in public, we shared a cab home, I told him he was not coming in, he followed me up my garden path, I physically had to shove him away and get in my house and slam the door. He then booty called me the next day hmm I respectfully declined and cut off contact.

Around may i had some contact with an ex from college through work. We caught up, had a laugh, then he started to text me saying we should go out, id say cool when, he wouldn't text back, then text again a couple of weeks later saying the same thing, I ignored him after the 5th time!

Met a guy through work in August, we clicked, he made me laugh, we had serious sexual tension, he was coming out of a long term relationship (together two years, no kids, not married, she cheated) , we took it slow, coffee, day time dates, only went as far as kissing, but messaging continuoisly (200 messages in less than 48 hours at one point! i should have known confused haha) then I found out he hadn't actually ended his relationship angry he is confused, and thinking about things, and unsure, and can't be rushed and apparently I am unreasonable for not 'enjoying the time together and seeing where it could go' hmm as he fancies me loads but cares about her, so 'why do you have to make things so bleurgh' shock so I told him in no uncertain terms to feck off.

Please tell me this gets better!! This is the longest I have been single for, and I am losing faith in nice honest guys who don't dick about!

I'm mid twenties, I have DS who is nearly 6, but have joint custody so have freedom, I earn good money, have my own house and car etc. I'm not keen on online dating as friends have had some weird experiences. I had counselling earlier in the year and feel like I have raised my bar with the standard I expect to be treated. Don't think I could meet a decent guy out clubbing, not that I go that much any more. So where should you meet guys?

Have I raised the bar to far? shock is it me? sad I'm having a pity party, so thanks for sticking with me smile

LineRunner Mon 30-Sep-13 19:08:33

God no, you certainly haven't raised the bar too far. smile

akaWisey Mon 30-Sep-13 19:09:27

Of course you haven't raised the bar too far, better that than settling for less than you deserve.

OD does have it's fair share of weirdo's but no more so than anywhere else IME. The good thing is you get to screen them out before they're grinding their crotch into your leg and chasing you up the garden path (cheeky, cheeky fucker).

Do you belong to a gym? It might sound like a daft idea but it can be a place to meet someone.

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 30-Sep-13 19:11:30

Oh dear. Maybe you'll have to find a short-hand way to weed these dickheads out quicker. smile I'm thinking a quick Cosmo-style questionnaire. Question 1. Be honest, you're an arsehole aren't you? Question 2. If you answered 'no' to Question 1., why are you such a liar?

But well done raising the bar and well done giving the the heave-ho. Keep heaving!

NutritiousAndDelicious Mon 30-Sep-13 19:18:01

Thank you for your replies.

I think what's tipped me over the edge is the last guys absolute shock at my pointing out he was grossly in the wrong and not being fair on anyone and he needed to
Sort his life out. He was all, I don't understand why you are saying this sad I don't want to stop talking to you, stop going all weird on me'

This guy is nearly 30, I mean wtf! Haha. My gut told me something was amiss as a few hours before I found out he still ha a gf he was sending me pictures of his semi and asking me for bikini shots (I politely declined)

Even one of my female friends told me to
Chill out and give guy one, and then guy three a chance. I am shock confused sad people think this behaviour is ok.

I should really join a gym, I might try OD in jan of things don't improve grin

akaWisey Mon 30-Sep-13 19:23:08

Some guys just have an enormous but deluded sense of entitlement, don't they?

But, you sound a bit more reassured in your last post smile

Anniegetyourgun Mon 30-Sep-13 19:26:26

Guy one sounds revolting, and guy three, of course, was just after a bit on the side. Never mind your bar being too high, does your friend even have a bar?

NutritiousAndDelicious Mon 30-Sep-13 19:26:28

Yep that's what it is, sense of entitlement!

And in 6 weeks I have to start working with my twunt of an ex.

Need wine and a bath I think smile

NutritiousAndDelicious Mon 30-Sep-13 19:27:41

Oh and no my friend is in a god awful relationship with one DD and another one on they, she won't see it though, as 'boys will be boys you need to chill out' hmm sad

akaWisey Mon 30-Sep-13 19:32:39

Ooh Annie. Still holding a candle for you grin

Anniegetyourgun Mon 30-Sep-13 19:40:27

Love you too Wisey!

Well, in that case, Nutritious, you know just how much to value that friend's judgement, however well she means. Some people are lovely but not sensible, and we all bring our own baggage when we give advice. Boys will indeed be boys, but personally I'd rather date grown-ups. (If/when I get round to it.)

Keep raising that bar!

NutritiousAndDelicious Mon 30-Sep-13 19:50:51

Yeah, it's just hard, as all around me seems to be people in the most dysfunctional relationships, but they think being alone is worse. So sometimes my head gets blurred as to what's right and what's wrong.

Thank god for MN, bar will be raised still and will keep heave ho-ing smile

TwoStepsBeyond Mon 30-Sep-13 20:07:02

Try online dating, it can't be much worse than these jokers!

Beccaloolah Mon 30-Sep-13 20:59:30

God, I have to totally applaud you for confronting guy no.3 for who and what he is!

I'm failing miserably on that front - my twunt is 46 and totally played me. Similar daytime coffee dates, swimming etc but nothing physical. He did ask for knicker pics and I bloody sent one when tipsy. But he blamed me/cut me off completely when ex confronted him in the street blaming him for our split. Even though twunt knew exactly why I had split up with ex (the ex is a delusional fuckwit who has a penchant for prostitutes as well as having an affair with a girl in the office and being a member of numerous no-strings attached websites)

Yet I'm still blaming myself for involving twunt in my problems - I even wave and say hello when I see him and stupidly emailed him for the first time in a month about two hours ago and have been ignored.

Wish I had the guts to call him out for what he is instead of trying to work out how we can be friends again. Even though I know he is toxic.

Well done - you have not raised the bar too high. You're just strong enough now to know that you deserve better. AND YOU DO!!

queenbitchapparently Mon 30-Sep-13 21:06:40

Online dating is a bit odd you get lots of weird messages.
You do however get one or two nice messages and that is all you need. (Marrying man I met online next year)

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