From reading threads on here, you tend to get differing attitudes, outrage, advice, on similar threads depending on whether its a woman or a man. For example:
Scenario:
On a post about a husband not being keen on sex at the moment. The woman started giving him oral, he wasn't enthused and it didn't go any further.
Responses:
He is a lazy lover/he should have said no/get rid of him.
A similar post where roles are reversed:
Responses:
You didn't say yes/you may have been raped/you shouldn't feel pressured in to sex/you don't owe him anything.
Scenario:
My husband is ignoring me.
Response:
He is withholding communication this is a form of EA. leave him.
Scenario:
Im not talking to my husband. I'm scared he will kick off if I tell him how I feel. (A valid reason for not communicating).
Response:
This is EA, leave him.
Scenario:
I want to leave my husband.
Responses:
Plan/organise/don't tell him/check finances/speak to solicitor, etc.
Scenario:
My husband left me. I've received legal documentation.
Response:
That's awful/it seems premeditated/he's been planning this behind your back.
The above are summaries and just examples. What I really want to know is whether you think if two sides of the same argument wrote in they would get conflicting advice(scenarios like above, not extreme cases)? Whether you would get fairer advice if you were non gender specific in your thread set up? Whether different sexes should get differing advice? Are some people too bitter to give a fair assessment?
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Treen44444 · 13/09/2013 16:40
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