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Dating Thread 63- disappearers, wedding bells and dodgy eye candy, all are welcome

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hostesswithleastest Thu 05-Sep-13 23:36:09

Oops that title may have put off newcomers :D

Anyway.... the old thread is dead long live the new!

lovelybunchofcoconuts Sat 07-Sep-13 20:22:31

49 very exciting, I'm thinking of you.

kittykat10 Sat 07-Sep-13 20:25:40

Just feeling lonely tonight , saw my ex and his child with the gf earlier that not helped plus not spoke to another human all day.
And missed seeing Mr car this weekend last few weekends been fun , we have texted today but all of a sudden I feel real low .

KinNora Sat 07-Sep-13 21:18:23

I'm sorry Kitty, I think that can be Saturday night/weekend feeling when you feel like everyone else is having a better time than you, can you phone someone in RL or watch something entertaining on the telly ? I know how crappy it is to feel like that.

kittykat10 Sat 07-Sep-13 21:24:49

I don't have any one to call.

To be honest I have no friends no real world ones.

Sorry

Snapespeare Sat 07-Sep-13 21:40:45

come on 49! grin

BloomingRose Sat 07-Sep-13 21:58:48

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

KinNora Sat 07-Sep-13 22:16:12

Kitty, what are you apologising for ? Life is very hard sometimes, almost impossible to endure but it will get better.

Kirstywirsty Sun 08-Sep-13 08:22:07

Hey kitty hope you are feeling a bit better this morning .. I often think a Saturday feels as though everyone else is out partying and I'm the only one not!

Do you have DCs? Organising play dates is a good way to make friends with other mums .. And a lot of people on here swear by meet up as a good way to make new friends

Morning everyone smile

49 well......??????

kittykat10 Sun 08-Sep-13 09:04:35

Hi Kristy.

No I don't have any kids , people I used to be friends with at work I get the odd text but it me who sends the first one.
Sad to say but no one , I spend every day in my room , I have a dog but she hopeless with other dogs so I walk her alone.
Not worked since November so every day same.

KinNora Sun 08-Sep-13 09:53:48

Kitty - you said that you used to work in healthcare (I don't know which field) have you looked at volunteering, either in your own area of experience or something completely different ? That way you'd get out of the house, meet other people and in addition to helping others, lift your own mood.

kittykat10 Sun 08-Sep-13 10:02:58

Kin

I was a nurse. Tried to join an agency but my registration run out and need a crb check but I can't afford it .
I can't take the risk th a t I pay it and then not get work.
I live fairly rural area so hospitals fair distance , I get 70 a week that has to cover bills housing ext.

I'll be ok just Fed up

Winefiend Sun 08-Sep-13 10:15:08

kitty You're signing on aren't you? If so, in which area? I'm going to PM you in a bit. One of my colleagues has a client who was a nurse in a similar position and managed to access funding to renew nursing registration.

Alternatively, like Nora said, volunteering is a good idea, our local NHS Trusts take on vols twice a year and this month is one of those times. I spent a few hours with one of my ladies on Thurs going through this and was pleasantly surprised at the opportunities available.

Another option is to contact your local Trusts and find out if any are planning mass recruitment. If they are, ask them to confirm this to you by email, take this to the Jobcentre and ask if they will fund your registration. Often JCP will fund training if there is an almost guaranteed job as it is mutually beneficial - you get a job and the JCP Advisor gets a job outcome. If your Advisor says no and does not give good reason, you are perfectly within your rights to request someone else (best done in writing).

Winefiend Sun 08-Sep-13 10:16:29

kitty Also, similarly, ask one of the agencies to do similar re: guaranteed jobs.

KinNora Sun 08-Sep-13 10:18:46

Ok then what about finding an organisation to volunteer for ? I think that if you are a naturally empathetic person then it makes life very difficult if you can't express that part of your personality and, speaking for myself, I'm much happier when I've not got too much time to dwell on my various problems.

KinNora Sun 08-Sep-13 10:20:20

Wine - look at us two being all professional and mature and shit - arf

Winefiend Sun 08-Sep-13 10:21:48

Ah and one more thing kitty, re: dog. In my area there is a very active forum which has a pets section. Quite often, from what I've seen, they have meet ups even for dogs which struggle to socialise. What kind of behaviour is he displaying when he's out? When you're earning again you could look at training classes or 1:1 classes. I'm very lucky insofar as I can take mine anywhere (bar near footballs) but my friend had a little lad who was aggressive (a rescue) and it made things really difficult and walks really quite stressful at times.

kittykat10 Sun 08-Sep-13 10:22:28

I'm in Midlands .
I have two possible interviews if I can pass the maths exam.
My job center is 10 miles away so cost me about 4 pound to go , I've emailed to see if I can get travel funding for interviews but not hopeful.

I don't want to go back to where I worked as I was bullied.
I did get a job I n Jan but it was withdrawn to previous boss reference.

I did nothing wrong but wasn't supported well in role.

Winefiend Sun 08-Sep-13 10:23:04

Nora I know, LOLZ! grin Makes a change from STDs and Angel Delight innit blud.

Winefiend Sun 08-Sep-13 10:26:50

kitty Another good reason to get volunteering then. A nice reference for you. Www.do-it.org, unvaluable for volunteering opps.

When you go to JCP next, take a copy of that email (as they probably won't have replied) and do not leave until you speak to someone about it. Don't let them fob you off. When you do find work, it is definitely worth considering relocating for a nice fresh start and more opportunities.

Winefiend Sun 08-Sep-13 10:27:36

*invaluable

kittykat10 Sun 08-Sep-13 10:28:12

She can appear aggressive but I think she picks up on my anxiety issues in the home she lovely well behaved brilliant with t he other dogs we have.
I've muzzled her now for her own protection but due the breed ppl avoid I d US .

Winefiend Sun 08-Sep-13 10:31:01

kitty East or West Midlands? If West then they are the same Lead Contractor as us, which means they'll probably work with single folk (we were originally supposed to just work with families but that changed).

Winefiend Sun 08-Sep-13 10:34:04

kitty you've hit the nail on the head there. When you're out, if you think about any anxiety travelling straight down the lead to the dog, that's a good way to see the situation. Get on looking for dog meet ups.

I know what you mean re: breed. My friends have an absolutely beautiful Staffy (one of my dogs' birds, the Casanova he is) who is soft as shit but they are terrified to let her offlead for the same reason - other people.

OhWesternWind Sun 08-Sep-13 10:37:49

Wrote a great long post and just lost it. Gist was:-

49 all agog and vicariously excited here

Broken if you're not on top form, OD can be difficult. I've always used Match and PoF in combination, kept me well supplied with dates, many of them engineers (which is not necessarily a bad thing)

Snape shipping out to N's sounds like a cracking plan. Salmon my arse.

Kitty weekends and holidays can be really hard. Sorry you're feeling a bit down.

Nora purleeeese rename this poor bloke! He's going to be the love of your life maybe and all we'll be able to think about is suppurating sores.

Hello Rose lovely!

Bant as my grandma used to say, there's none so blind as those who will not see.

Hello everyone else!

Wonderful afternoon/evening out with Alpha and dc yesterday. He's great with them, they really like him. All is lovely beyond belief. He's coming over this afternoon too grin. I feel so very, very lucky to have met him.

kittykat10 Sun 08-Sep-13 10:43:50

West Midlands,
I can't relocate my dad is elderly so I need to be close by.
She is a staff as well , she scared of all sorts.

Sorry to hi Jack post !

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