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Hmmm ; so this one is suggesting we shag when we first meet [hmm].

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superstarheartbreaker · 02/09/2013 22:52

Dump? I mean he says he fancies me rotten but he has only seen my photo. I mean I could do with a shag but it's a bit bloody presumptious. He looks fit. Ultimately I want a relationship so do I;
a. Meet up with him and risk being pressured into sex?
b. Meet up with him and shag him (if I like him) as I could do with a shag anyway but assume it's only casual?
c. Tell him to bugger off?

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superstarheartbreaker · 02/09/2013 22:54

He hasn't directly suggest we shag but he has dropped some big hints such as ''we could spend all afternoon snogging on the couch '' (which leads onto bigger things imo. Is this sweet or creepy? I just don't know anymore!

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Madamemyway · 02/09/2013 22:59

It's not sweet! You haven't met so it is all conjecture, best thing to do is be upfront and say you want a relaxing meetup and plan one in a public place where there can be no possibility of him pressuring you to do anything you don't want to. That way if you do really fancy each other you can move on to a couch somewhere!

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sooperdooper · 02/09/2013 23:00

He sounds like he's not after a relationship, if you are then don't bother with him, if you do like him you'll end up annoyed because he doesn't want to commit

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burberryqueen · 02/09/2013 23:01

creepy IMO, i had one date with a guy like that, all he wanted was a shag and anyone, I mean anyone, would have done, never mind your sparkling wit and amusing repartee.

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burberryqueen · 02/09/2013 23:01

Dump

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LookingForwardToVino · 02/09/2013 23:02

Booty call alert!

Depends what you are after op. I'd scratch someone like this of the relationship list. Ok if you just want a bit of fun though.

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BlackDaisies · 02/09/2013 23:03

Don't do it! I think experiences like he would be (if you spent the afternoon with him and most likely never again) just chip away at your self esteem in the long run.

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WhiteandGreen · 02/09/2013 23:30

b.

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TheSecondComing · 02/09/2013 23:34

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StupidMistakes · 02/09/2013 23:40

Imo men that want to meet up n shag on a first date don't tend to hang about or want relationships. Though I should eat my words as my now male best mate n me did on a first date n he has stood by me no matter what but only as friends but that's mainly cos I fucked up

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Mabelface · 02/09/2013 23:51

He wants a shag, not a relationship.

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curlew · 02/09/2013 23:55

See those hills? Run towards them.

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Ikeameatballs · 02/09/2013 23:59

I find the whole "snogging on the couch" suggestion a bit Hmm tbh.

Unless you are bth 14, then it's fine.

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HairyGrotter · 03/09/2013 00:40

Another shout for creepy and run. Sounds grim as!

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cronullansw · 03/09/2013 02:11

He is clearly not looking for the rose covered cottage, 2.4 children and a Volvo Estate.

So what are you looking for, what have you intimated?

And whats wrong with B anyway?

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Onesleeptillwembley · 03/09/2013 02:58

Urgh. He sounds a creep. Find someone normal.

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AdoraBell · 03/09/2013 03:27

I'd dump because you say you are looking for a relationship. If you had joined the site just To find blokes To shag then I'd say go for it, but you didn't, did you?

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converselover · 03/09/2013 09:06

No no no

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superstarheartbreaker · 03/09/2013 15:45

"He is clearly not looking for the rose covered cottage, 2.4 children and a Volvo Estate."

Excellent!
Mind you; who the hell wants a Volvo-yuck!

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superstarheartbreaker · 03/09/2013 15:46

I think I'm at the stage where I am looking for a nice bf but will be up for a few shags along the way. Don't want to get hooked on ones like this though.

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Dahlen · 03/09/2013 16:15

I find it downright weird that he would be making overtures in that direction before even having met you.

I mean what if you meet up and realise you don't find the other person remotely sexually attractive? Obviously everyone has the right to change their minds, but how excruciatingly awkward if you know the other person is up for it because you've said you were and harped on about it and now you don't want to...

If he just wants a shag, rather than a relationship, that's one thing (although why not just say so? Plenty of women want just that as well). But if he wants a relationship and is happy to have sex on the first date (nothing wrong with that), surely he'd wait to see if there is a spark of sexual attraction?

That makes me think he's either hopelessly naive, desperate, completely lacking in social skills, or actually just a garden variety liar who seems to think he has to promise marriage and a white picket fence in order to get his end away. Yawn!

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