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Celebrity Crushes

(32 Posts)
silverphotoframe Mon 02-Sep-13 22:37:30

I'm a long term lurker, first time poster.

Apologies in advance if this on the wrong topic forum. I did'nt know which one would be the most appropriate.

Basically, since about Christmas time I have had a on/off massive crush on someone famous. I say on/off as it kind of petered out for a while but it has over the last month flared up again. I seem to spend a lot of time googling him in an attempt to find out everything about him etc and also daydreaming about him.

I feel a bit pathetic because I am a 32 year old mother of 1 DC, not a 14 year old....

I know that it is all in my imagination etc, that its a bit silly and illogical and that if I met him in real life, he will of course be totally different to how he is in my head (as it is of course just a figment of my imagination). I just can't seem to help myself.

I thought the relationship thread might be the most appropriate place to post this as I have mentioned this crush to my counsellor (who I have been seeing for almost a year - I had an ugly separation from my child's father and also a history of shitty relationships and needed therapy big time) and she said that I should'nt beat myself up too much about having my crush because it is less about the celebrity and more about my aspiration for a happy, healthy relationship with someone.

But tbh, through out my adult life I seem to have developed sometimes quite long term crushes on people in the public eye. Perhaps unsurprisingly they always correspond to times in my life when I have felt lonely etc.

I suppose the purpose of my thread was to ask whether I am weird to have crushes like this at my age or whether other people have them too post adolescence? I can't admit to anyone in RL about this as I feel too silly and have no idea if other people do this too?

yes do tell so we can mock you agree or disagree with you grin

Ezio Tue 03-Sep-13 17:10:36

I have a very shameful crush that last about 20 years.....I'll tell if you do.

SparkyTGD Wed 04-Sep-13 11:40:19

Ezio I have one from about 20 years ago that I've re-discovered but only crushing on him as he looked 20 yrs ago grin! He's still around (musician) but not nearly as gorgeous (neither am I, it has to be said, age doesn't come alone etc!)

I'm not telling though blush

Ezio Wed 04-Sep-13 12:00:23

coughcoughcoughcoughGaryNevillecoughcoughcoughcoughcough.

StillSeekingSpike Wed 04-Sep-13 13:10:20

No, no celeb crushes here..... <hides username>...blush.

I think what your counsellor said is actually really useful advice. TBH my dating history would be much happier if I get my aim a little higher, IYSWIM, and not settled for something all the time.

Mind you- GARY NEVILLE????!!!!!!!

Ezio Wed 04-Sep-13 13:11:37

<hides away shamefully>

liquidstate Wed 04-Sep-13 15:35:13

I have always had crushes and I have developed a massive celebrity crush in the last year but it makes my daydreaming much more pleasant smile

I don't think its a bad thing, I look on it as a type of special place that we are supposed to think of in times of stress. I don't think my crush is weird and am sure many of you would agree with me but I keep it a secret so it remains special to me.

In my dreams he is extremely good in bed BTW grin

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