I've posted before about ex and his ea when we were together and it has continued verbally via text since we split a year ago.
I'll try not to drip feed but don't want an essay so I'll try to summarise.
I engaged a solicitor re contact with ds. He hasn't. Have attempted mediation but he won't respond to phone calls/letters from them.
Basically his behaviour is worsening if anything(always via text) and it always hinges on him saying he misses me/he's sorry/he would be the best partner ever etc.
He is civil to a point until he realises I won't budge. (I maintain a calm, non aggressive response to him- no I don't want to be with you but would like some degree of civility etc)
I say or do nothing to prompt any kind if reaction to him but he is recently saying things via text which are nasty, really quite nasty(think c word, slag, slut, evil etc) and I've actually had enough.
Counselling and advice from solicitor has lessened the emotional impact of his behaviour on me, I'm more pissed off than anything. I just want a peaceful life for me and more importantly my ds.
My solicitor wrote to him several months ago and "warned him" about the abusive texts. He believes I have control over our son and uses this to excuse his behaviour. In fact I do have majority of time with ds but this is, I believe, for good reason. He often is late or cancels contact for example. His work is chaotic and he in unreliable and takes very little responsibility for anything in his life..
At the moment I try so har to maintain a peaceful positive persona around ds, especially at handovers etc. it's obviously a one way street and the effect on ds is one thing in scared of.
Back to main question, what would the police do if I approached them about the texts? Some could be seen as treats but they're not clear cut. It's more the name calling and general nastiness.
My solicitor left the firm a month or so ago and attempts to get appointments are near impossible, as are call backs or anything. Could my legal aid be transferred to another firm?
I want him to stop being nasty and abusive, I want him to know he doesn't have the right to speak to me like this. I am planning on getting another phone especially for him and only turning it on during contact but feel this isn't enough.
I've tried so long for peace between us bt its not gonna work, I accept that now and the frequency and tone of texts is increasing and nasty and need Ito stop.
Would police take action or would it be a waste of time?
I'm also increasingly worried about ex's mindset and the effect it will have on ds, is it all merged(behaviours/contact) or is it seen as 2 seperate issues.
I really don't know where to turn
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Abusive texts/unhinged behaviour from ex. Police?
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Wereonourway · 02/09/2013 21:42
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