TWO-and-a-half years ago I discovered my partner was heavily involved/sexting a girl in the office. It had been going on for 10 months. He promised to end it. He didn't. And I caught him again a few months later. There were up to 200 messages a day at times. She works in my office too and I see her daily. I never said anything to her about it.
While searching for evidence, I discovered he had been using prostitutes since we first started dating (13yrs). And was a member of 17 no-strings attached sex websites for here and travelling abroad. It kinda put the girl in the office into perspective.
After counselling and crying and begging from him, I stayed but after a completely sexless three years and more I realised I may have forgiven him but I could never forget. We have been in separate bedrooms pretty much since our 5-year-old son was born. In February, I finally had the guts/confidence to say I wanted out. I felt the relationship was not a healthy example to our son and would drive me to drink and depression etc.
It has been very hard, but we officially separated in April but have had to share the house until it sold. He is a control freak, makes digs and has always put me down. My parents have been extremely supportive and my Mum even said she'd had to bite her lip for years because of the way he has put me down.
We move out a week Friday.
The problem now is that I stupidly flirted with a guy who I've had a crush on a for a few months and have been flattered by his attention. My ex accessed my phone and read the messages - some quite saucy - and then confronted the guy in the street.
The guy blamed me completely, sent me abusive texts saying he had never encouraged me, he doesn't need the stress and neither does his girlfriend (who he has previously denied existed calling her his PA and some blonde - turns out he has bought the house next door for her). He said he was just being friendly.
My confidence has been destroyed AGAIN. I feel like a total fool and can barely function at work without wanting to cry. I feel stupid as I've done just what the ex did a few year back and now he is taking the moral highground.
I bump into the flirty guy A LOT and don't know what to do when I do see him. I also have to admit I did actually really like him even though he has absolutely revealed himself to be an utter twonk to put it politely.
Any advice on handling the a-hole when I do see him and any advice on what to say to the ex when we "meet to chat" tomorrow night.
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SHARING HOUSE WITH EX TIL SOLD - caught flirting with another man!
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Beccaloolah · 02/09/2013 21:09
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