I've tried to write this 3 times. It just seems so petty compared to others real problems on here!
But it's eating away at me so I will get it off my chest and ask for a bit of advice.
Backstory.
I have 2 friends from high school. Over 15 years now. Both have always picked on me very subtly, I'm reasonably shy and polite and can occasionally be trampled over in my personal life. I see these friends once every few months. One more so as her mum just died suddenly so I try to support her. Neither have children or long term partners and neither want children.
Yesterday we met up and I took my 10 month old PFB. As soon as we got there one picked her up with no warning and shoogled her about. She cried and to be honest that set the time for my DD for the rest of the day! She is teething and quite whinging. The shoogling friend gave me DD a crisp without asking and always always acts like she knows best where babies are concerned. I am slightly fed up of her know it all attitude.
The other friend gave a sharp intake of breath when I produced a dummy and then lectured me throughout lunch on the dangers of dummies and how awful it will be when my DD can't speak properly. She then lectured me all the lunch about various other things from food to sleeping. All the time basically suggesting I was a sh*t parent.
I left feeling drained, upset and doubting myself as a parent. Today I am just angry! What gives them the right to think they are better than me. My DD is a beautiful chatty wee baby, is hitting all her milestones and is always well dressed and looked after. Nothing to worry about or suggest I don't look after her well.
O god this is huge, sorry! Basically I think I am brave enough now to cut contact with these 2 women. But I can't help feeling I should explain how they made me feel? Or do I just stop talking to them?
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Cheekybubbles · 02/09/2013 16:27
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