I recently found out that my sister and her boyfriend of 9 months are swingers and am trying to make sense of it at the moment. I know it isn't anything to do with me but I can't fathom why anyone would do this and kind of need it explaining in words of one syllable.
They've been at it since they got together and I'm quite worried about my sis. She has a long history of destructive behaviour and I'm really concerned about the damage she could do to herself as I don't think her self esteem/respect is high. She seems quite compulsive in spending, drinking, lying and eating etc and never seems to stop before harm comes (is in shed loads of debt, constantly is being fired from jobs, gets so drunk she soils herself and too many examples to list which I always seem to be the one to pick up the pieces of ) and I worry that the swinging is just the sexual side of her lack of control.
Obviously she is an adult and can supposedly take care of herself, though it is apparent in other areas of her life that she can't, and I probably should leave well alone, but I'm worried it'll all come crashing down and we'll be left with her in an even more fragile emotional state.
Can anyone reassure me, or not? I can't see how swinging can come from a secure emotional place and really why anyone would want to do it, especially in a fledgling relationship - wouldn't it undermine all the trust you're supposed to build?
I just don't understand what she's up to and why.
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Confused about swinging/worried about sister
HotelTangoFoxtrotUniform · 25/08/2013 09:55
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