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Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

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Kirstywirsty · 20/08/2013 16:37

The Rules

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  7. If it's not fun, stop
  8. loo update is mandatory
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dontcallmehon · 20/08/2013 16:40

Hi can I join? New to datimg and need wise words

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TravelinColour · 20/08/2013 16:42

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kittykat10 · 20/08/2013 16:55

Yeah your right about ex I'll ignor his day off text this week !

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Hamwidgeandcheps · 20/08/2013 17:06

Good work kitty Grin
Not been to a match event though I was invited. It's the kind of thing I couldn't face alone!

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Hamwidgeandcheps · 20/08/2013 17:18

So I didn't buy mr hot and cold a present and now I want to. We had another big heart to heart and after this one I don't feel anxious about things any more. I told him the whole thing makes me feel v vulnerable and he said 'I know this is why I don't contact you all the time - I'm scared it will overwhelm you and freak you out' - which explains a lot really.

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Wagonwheels · 20/08/2013 17:27

Hello new thread - and new people :)

Ham sounds like a quality chat - maybe you can bring him a late pressie next time? :)

Flo so are you planning to see Mr T again? His chattiness about himself could have been nerves... Or are you sensing otherwise?

If you feel fine about meeting Mr Flash with your DCs, then go for it. Think it was Kin who mentioned earlier though, that you might find it more difficult to focus on him, and work out if you like him enough for another date?

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superdooperpenguin · 20/08/2013 17:41

Ok, I fear I have just behaved like an unstable woman! POF guy I've been seeing for 3 mths, "doesn't do labels" so won't officially be my boyfriend ( I know I sound 14!!). He's been setting off alarm bells in my head so I did a search on POF and he's on there, apparently online today. I know he might just have been checking an email out of interest but I'm quite pissed off he's still looking! So I set up a fake profile and messaged him to see if he replies! Yes I know I sound creepy but I'm so fed up of being messed around by men!

What do you think - time to cut my losses or wait and see what happens re. Message?

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kittykat10 · 20/08/2013 17:44

I did same lol looked at ex profile and he looked at mine so much for not being in right place , I did it out poo f curiosity lol

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DadfromUncle · 20/08/2013 17:51

Hi all - just a quick check in - can't believe how fast and furious things are on here at the mo. My "news" is there isn't any. POF woman who sent me a "hey there" (which happens when you press one of the buttons I think" and who I messaged hasn't replied. Saw one other woman I liked the look of and may message her later in the week. Had another "hey there" from a woman with an out of focus selfie in which she looks angry and another where she looks unhinged and with whom I appear to have zero in common judging by her profile, oh well, onwards and upwards. WFF things are sounding good. Lorna am jealous of pashing but wish you every pash Smile to all.

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49howdidthathappen · 20/08/2013 17:51

I took the afternoon off, bought cake and went to my mums. Her partner, my sister and day carer were there. We all had tea and cake. We sang Happy Birthday. Mum joined in. Made my day Smile

Just seeing Mr R&R is more than enough for me. My mum had her stroke just after we got together. It has been a tough time. He has never wavered in his support for me. He is the love of my life. God. I'm a soppy cow these days Blush

A great big thankyou for the birthday messages. You Rock Grin

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DadfromUncle · 20/08/2013 17:56

Oh, and welcome dontcallme and travel

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dontcallmehon · 20/08/2013 17:57

Hi all, just posted a thread titled 'don't know what to make of this' about POF guy who is giving me mixed signals. Cancelled another date with handsome doctor (date 2) as I like hot and cold guy, but I saw sense and rearranged for next week.

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Kirstywirsty · 20/08/2013 18:24

Well what do you think of this? FoF had told me he is testing the waters for a job in fucking Devon !! He talked about wanting to retire there or if he got made redundant he would consider it once his girls are older (youngest is 15) .. I think I definitely need to cool things off a bit or I'm going to get badly hurt .. Or should I just go for it ( as I have been) and take my chances???

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kittykat10 · 20/08/2013 18:39

Think I've messed up I tested asking if he'd ever been married

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49howdidthathappen · 20/08/2013 18:55

Tough one Kirsty Maybe you need to pull back a bit. Just to protect yourself.

Kitty Can't see why that would that bother anyone.

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Bant · 20/08/2013 18:56

hon this thread is the perfect place for you :) and welcome.

People will check their profiles, or not, after a date. Either could mean good things or bad things. There really isn't any telling which is which. But don't invest too soon. Let the bullshit wash over you, and only get involved when someone has earned it

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49howdidthathappen · 20/08/2013 18:56

One too many 'that' there. Time I was gone.

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Hamwidgeandcheps · 20/08/2013 18:58

Kitty I don't follow?
V tempted to POF stalk Mr h and c but might not like the result. I know he was in there though, he told me.

I am baffled by the etiquette re od when you are seeing someone. Is retaining a profile a crime?

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kittykat10 · 20/08/2013 19:14

It was some thing I'd not asked of him I'd got in my head he maybe

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superdooperpenguin · 20/08/2013 19:16

I don't know what OD etiquette is, I just assumed once sleeping together it meant exclusive? Maybe a big mistake on my part! Fearing the worse, I seem to pick total idiots!

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TravelinColour · 20/08/2013 19:21

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Bant · 20/08/2013 19:27

Penguin - I think sleeping together is a natural place for the exclusivity chat, if only for health purposes, but you can't assume anything.

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Flipper934 · 20/08/2013 19:33

I don't know, Super. I still have my profile up and log on regularly to OKC, even though I'm quite happy with MA right now. And 3DD logs on to OKC a couple of times a week, even though Pretty Blonde is a permanent fixture and has met his kids now.

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