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how long should good sex take???

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stopusingmynicknames Sat 20-Jul-13 18:16:56

That subject got you reading!

Have just slept with internet chappy, who informed me immediately prior to having sex that I should look forward to five hours of undiminished pleasure. I pointed out that five hours of it wouldn't, in my humble opinion, be particularly pleasant, but rather bloody painful, and in the end I gave him about two hours and then feigned sleep...

Anyway, it got me thinking. How long do you girls and boys think a good shag should take???

middleclassdystopia Sun 21-Jul-13 20:06:24

Married 10 years, still in love. Usually about 5 to 10 mins for a great orgasm. I used to think we were too quick but I think we are just so in tune with each other.

5 hours! Nonsense!

CatsAndTheirPizza Tue 23-Jul-13 01:57:00

Oh my goodness OP, you didn't come back to update - you're not still ... ?

kalidanger Tue 23-Jul-13 08:22:54

Haha cats

Please come back OP grin

MrsMelons Tue 23-Jul-13 08:25:50

DH says 5 mins grin

Seriously though, in the past in my single days then a few hours would be quite normal or even most of the night but this would be lots of foreplay, sex, maybe a cuddle and a chat and then more foreplay and sex. Definitely not just one 5 hour shag, I used to be fairly adverturous but I cannot see what you could do for 5 hours in one go!

MrsMelons Tue 23-Jul-13 08:27:28

middleclassdystopia - I totally agree, it is a lot quicker with DH now than it used to be, I think it is a combination of what you have said but also that we are not doing it as often so its all over a bit quicker IYSWIM

stopusingmynicknames Tue 23-Jul-13 17:52:08

grin cats!
I told him firmly that five hours was quite out of the question, and that he had 90min tops...
he was a bit perplexed. but, anyway, I came.. but he didn't (still).
I love the fact that he moaned to me that he never had sex with his wife when married. I should co-co - three young children and a husband that wanted five hours at a time????? poor woman. He was lucky he ever managed to conceive the second and third children...

I wonder if he's been at the little blue pills?

CatsAndTheirPizza Tue 23-Jul-13 19:10:39

Glad you made it back in once piece grin

Ninety minutes from the start to your last shopping list being finished, or just the bit in the middle?

filee777 Tue 23-Jul-13 19:12:38

Long enough but not too long after ;)

Unless you're having a break, making tea and going back into it or doing tantric, which doesnt work with kids in the house.

titzup Tue 23-Jul-13 19:22:15

I've had one 5hr actual PIV shagfest, was fun at the time but wouldnt want it every time, didn't get sore or anything. Back in the day me and hubs could probably manage 2hrs-ish of PIV but thesedays it's more like 30 mins on a good day grin

Bluecarrot Tue 23-Jul-13 19:42:43

We prefer quickies but once in a while its nice to have a longer session...but thats maybe an hour of foreplay and a few mins penetration before its too much!

4 hours would be my idea of hell.

gamerchick Tue 23-Jul-13 19:43:57

I agree with what was said earlier.. finger up the arse, give it a good wiggle. Usually sorts out any man who trys to go for ages grin

Some men need to realise that penetration isn't the be all and end all. There's to more to pleasing a woman than that.

stopusingmynicknames Tue 23-Jul-13 21:57:07

Gamer I had actually tried that the first time, as I agree it's usually the way to speed things up. But didn't seem to have any effect on ViagraMan

Lucylloyd13 Tue 23-Jul-13 22:24:20

My boyfriend and I have had a six hour session- there is so much to do!

Mudness Thu 25-Jul-13 20:15:54

Six hours - fantastic smile fucking hell, that's 3 loads of laundry, emptying the dishwasher, cleaning out the pets, quick bj and a shag

MaryBateman Thu 25-Jul-13 20:30:21

Gawd. I had an ex like this. It was grim, endless tedium though no doubt he thought he was the greatest lover in the world. I dumped him when he told me that he wanted me to tie him up and tease him for an hour. Am not sure that my idea of teasing him - as in leaving him tied up - while I watched telly and drank wine was what he had in mind. Not that I did, he was dispatched before it got that far.

fifi669 Thu 25-Jul-13 20:54:28

5 hours would bore the crap out of me! The foreplay aside I wouldn't want actual intercourse to last more than 10 minutes....

rob99 Thu 25-Jul-13 21:02:40

3 minutes......including foreplay !

MadBusLady Thu 25-Jul-13 21:43:33

For some reason I am giggling like a loon at "a dreary afternoon's humping".

I'd be about as sexually responsive as a rubber duck after two hours.

fifi669 Thu 25-Jul-13 22:02:53

He he he

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