I'm wondering if anyone has ever proposed to their boyfriend and been turned down, and if so, how did you deal with that? Did it harm your relationship at all, did you eventually get married anyway?
I'm beginning to seriously think of proposing to my current boyfriend. I have had this feeling since I first met him that I would marry him, that same feeling I had when I met my children's father that I would have children with him. I have never had either of these feelings about other boyfriends. It's so strong as to be almost a premonition.
I'm 44 and never been married. My boyfriend is the same age and circumstance. He has no children (ex very long term partner had grown up kids and didn't want any more).
Ideally, I'd prefer the romantic notion of a man proposing to me (I've never experienced that), and of course there are practical considerations, which would mean a fairly lengthy engagement first.
Which are: I have two children and my youngest starts Reception this Autumn, which is when I plan to return to work.
I don't live with my boyfriend and I cannot practically see that happening until I am fully established in employment, mostly because I want to share the financial side of things, also because his line of work means either of us could move in with the other (neither property is big enough to accommodate plus his working from home requirements are unusual).
We have only been dating for just over a year, although talked regularly online before that. He is an old family friend, everyone has known him over 20 years.
Shall I just hang fire until I'm more settled in work and so on?
Shall I just bite the bullet and ask him anyway?
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Help me decide whether to propose to my boyfriend
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Flyingtree · 10/07/2013 23:17
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